28 Men Admit The Ways In Which They Were Sucky Boyfriends, Now That They’ve Had Time To Reflect

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I expected her to solve my depression. That wasn’t her job. —pleiop

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I have trust issues, I can’t open up emotionally to anyone, and I have crippling social anxiety. I am not a fun person to be in a relationship with. I wish I knew how to fix any of this. I have begun exploring WHY I am this way, but why isn’t the answer to how to fix any of this. —0x8BitStorm

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Long ago, I was a sh*tty boyfriend to several girls because I wanted to be nice all the time. It was important to me that people thought I was nice. So when a relationship wasn’t working out great, and it was time for us to move on, I didn’t have the guts or true compassion to break things off. Because that wouldn’t have been very nice. Instead I’d purposefully act aloof, or disinterested, or annoyed, in the hopes that the girl would get the hint. It must have been very confusing for them.

Of course trying to be nice in this self-serving way was the exact opposite of kindness. I was afraid to hurt someone’s feelings, and that cowardice caused even more hurt. I grew out of that eventually. But if someone’s reading this and it hits close to home, think about this! Breakups suck but people get over them. Do the right thing and be honest to people! —michaeljoemcc

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I used to be pretty manipulative by ignoring or straight up breaking up with my girlfriends when I didn’t get my way. Of course they’d come running back to me apologizing for something that wasn’t their fault at all. Typical emotionally abusive relationships. —YOUR_FAV_INFANTRYMAN

men regret being bad boyfriends

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My inability to be vulnerable really puts me in positions to be sh*tty. I can’t and don’t reciprocate feelings and simple things in a relationship. Girls love me at first, only at first. —1911_

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Hiding my feelings and emotions because I was afraid to talk about things that might make her mad/sad. Never works out in the end. —YourRoaring20s

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I was in a long distance relationship. She was in Missouri and I was in Florida. I assume she had separation anxiety or was just very clingy because every time I didn’t text her back, she would blow up my phone. It got to the point where she would message me on any platform possible. Having enough of this, I had to break it off. Without warning, I straight up ghosted her. She would call, text, FaceTime, anything to get to me and I didn’t have the guts to deal with her. This went on for about a month. Thinking I could talk to her and break up, I would text her and say I’m back and just come up with some bs excuse on why I wasn’t texting her back. Then she would get clingy again so I would ghost her again.

I lied to someone who just wanted to be with me and put her through so much pain. She wasn’t the one for me but I didn’t have to be an ass and do the things I did. I regret it every day and I wish I could apologize for everything. —YeehawBando

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If you’re not embarrassed of your past, you’re not growing as a person. Mistakes are not a life sentence. Learn from them and let them go. That being said, because I don’t want to avoid the question, I think my greatest mistake has been that I try to save people and then resent them for needing me when they can’t stand on their own. —subcypher

men regret being bad boyfriends

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Terribly insecure and always needing reassurance she wont leave me. Being absolutely batsh*t insane during the breakups. Constantly texting, begging to be taken back. Using being dumped as an excuse to get strung out on meth and throwing it in their face that its their fault I got addicted again. Not anymore, I am changing. Now a days I dont do anything to stop her and go about my life the way I want to. —Chimera_Tail_Fox

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We were in Target and she was smelling every stinky candle in the aisle. All of them one by one. I got impatient and said something about trying get out of there. She yelled at me “just leave me ALONE!” I said OK and got in the car and drove home. She had to walk home and it started to rain. The next day she called me and asked if I was still mad at her, but she also had the sniffles from walking in the rain. Felt like a piece of sh*t. —sjmiv