Okay – I admit it: this title sounds a lot more nefarious than what we’re going to see in this post. But STAY WITH ME because the answers to u/jolisyeux_‘s question on Reddit’s AskMen sub are gold.
They asked, “Married men: what’s one thing you wish you could tell your wife, but won’t because you know it will start a fight?”
Let’s dive in.
1. Family
My wife is always running around after her family, and she gets absolutely nothing in return. I’ve tried explaining to her that they are using her up, but she is having none of it and it has caused arguments in the past, so I’ve given up. She won’t hear a bad word against them, but it’s embarrassing to watch her run after them and kiss their arses.
2. In Laws
I get along with my in-laws. They’re good people and I don’t have a problem with them. With that being said, I don’t want to spend every weekend with them. Before I met my wife, I spent most of my free time alone and there’s so many weekends where I literally don’t want to leave the house or go see anyone. She knows I need my alone time and understands it, I just don’t think she knows to the extent that it goes
3. More in laws
I know you love your parents, but you should really tell them when you don’t like stuff or don’t want to do something, so we can stop eating shit meals and going to functions we don’t want to go to. Learn to say no or you don’t like something.
4. Anger
She needs to actually tell me what’s wrong. We’ve had too many arguments about this. She just keeps things bottled up until she gets frustrated. I can’t tell her because I have said this so much already and she just doesn’t listen.
5. Friends
My wife’s friends are a needy, useless gang of parasites who leech off of her endlessly, but she’s such a people pleaser that she can’t say no to any of them. One particular friend exploits her good nature to a piss-taking level, so I called her out on being a pathetic, needy parasite and it caused a shitstorm.
6. Remember?
Remember when you said “if I ever start acting like my mom, tell me”…
7. Our lifestyle
We are living beyond our means so you can impress your friends and relatives, who don’t give a flying f-ck.
8. Love
The person she fell in love with isn’t the person she wishes I was. This is difficult for her.
9. Family takes advantage
Your family takes advantage of you because of your inability to say “no”. Guilt issues are real and debilitating.
10. It’s okay
It’s okay to apologize when you make a mistake or when you say something you don’t mean. Being stubborn because you don’t want to ‘lose’ is actually a loss in the long run.
11. Drinking dad
I strongly dislike your dad when he drinks. I’d prefer not to be around him and I don’t want our daughter near him when he’s drinking.
12. First Date
Our first date was a concert and we had our first kiss during a song. A few years later I proposed at the same bands show at the same venue as our first date. She has bought decor and themed our entire life over the song we had our first kiss to. Quotes of the song everywhere, posters on wall, everything…but that’s not the actual song we had our first kiss to.
She didn’t know the band at the time we had our kiss and I just told her it was that song a few days later. The song is one they play at every show. Not the one we actually kissed during which is moderately rare to be played. I know if I told her this it would be a damn fight. It’s a secret I’ll live with forever. It’s an amazing song and fits the theme of love far better than the actual song. And seeing her face every time they play it live is worth the secret.
13. SHH
Please chew quieter.
14. Loud
Talking louder in a argument does not mean you’re right.
15. It doesn’t all matter
Not every fight has to burn the house down. Sometimes you can just move on from a minor inconvenience.
16. Move out
If your brother doesn’t move out, it will eventually lead to our divorce.
17. This breaks my heart
“I feel like everything I do is wrong to you.”
18. The goal of an argument
You are very intelligent and are often right, but you need to learn to relent when you’re not. The goal of an argument isn’t winning, it’s a solution.
19. Winning
When you win by a technicality it’s OK when I win by a technicality I’m a ass. That’s not cool.
20. Your dad
Your dad is not a great guy who happened to have fucked up a few times. I’ve met the cunt, have met many men like him and know for a fact he’s coasting through life on the goodwill of women who will forgive him