Kate Hackett
The stereotype of experimentation is that girls experiment with girls in college… but why not flip the script?
Today we have stories from the BuzzFeed Community in which straight men tell us all about their interesting, awkward, fun, and different same-sex hookups. Of course, experimenting is not an indication of being gay — and there is nothing at all wrong with giving something a whirl between two consenting adults.
1. Summer
“I spent a whole summer camping with my best friend of eight years. We both identify as straight. One night, we started talking about sex and how it’s usually an act of pleasure, so that means it should be between anyone without defining their sexuality. We casually said we were interested in experimenting, but I figured nothing would come from the conversation. The next night, while sitting around the fire and drinking, the topic came up again. During a silent moment, we both leaned into each other and started to kiss. As the nights went by, we went a little further each time…”
“We continued to hook up every single night for the whole 1.5 months of the camping trip, and we did everything. Overall, it was enjoyable. It hasn’t happened again since we returned home — it was definitely just because of the circumstances of the trip and both of us finding out that we were interested in experimenting. I’ll say…it was a very fun summer.”
Anonymous
2. Just a BJ
“I identify as straight, but I’ve hooked up with over 50 men. Back in the day, Craigslist’s personals were full of ads from guys who were interested in going down on straight guys. No foreplay or drama, just a BJ.”
Anonymous
3. Random roommate
“My random roommate during sophomore year happened to be gay. We had a lot in common, got along well, and decided to live together for the rest of college. He was really supportive after my girlfriend broke up with me during junior year. We got really close and even put our beds together, just so we could be near each other. After a while, I felt close enough with him to start experimenting sexually, and I didn’t hate it. It got to the point where we even made a pact to live together and be friends with benefits if we weren’t married by the time we turned 40. It was just really chill and easy. He ended up getting married last year, and I was his best man. I was actually a little disappointed to be honest, just because of how easy it was and how much we liked each other. But I’ve actually started dating again, and she’s great.”
4. Beer Pong
“My buddy and I lost a beer pong game, and our losing punishment was that we both had to strip naked and give each other a lap dance. The winners couldn’t stop laughing because we both had full chubs by the end of the song.”
Anonymous
5. Best friend
“My longtime friend and I were at his place after a tipsy night out. He flashed the top of his penis to show me his ‘spider bite,’ as he called it. This was so out of character for him, and it made me instantly hard, so I showed him my ‘spider bite’ too. He asked to touch it, and one thing led to another and I was now getting a handjob. Next time we saw each other, we engaged in mutual oral sex. It was incredibly exciting because it was all so new to both of us. He’s now happily married, and I’ve been with my lovely lady for 12 years…” “We’re both still just as close, if not closer. I was the best man at his wedding, and both of our significant others know what happened. No regrets from us — it was fun while it lasted! I’m incredibly grateful for that first experience.”
6. Straight dude
“When I was in my 30s, I hooked up with this straight lumberjack-type guy. He was super cool about it. I ran into him two weeks later at a bar, and he was just as nice. Two of his buddies were like, ‘How do you know him?’ He answered, ‘We hooked up a few weeks ago.’ His buddies got all homophobic on him, so he asked, ‘You guys have never messed around with another guy?’ They both got really quiet. It was hilarious. I saw him a year later, and his girlfriend joked to me, ‘So, you’re the one who gave my boyfriend the best head of his life? Thanks for that.’ Then I joked, ‘I could always teach you.’ It was hilarious…”
“They’re married with kids now. I’m gay, but I hooked up with a handful of men and women in my 30s. I was open, honest, safe, and respectful of my partners. In the end, they’re still straight, and I’m still gay and happily married to my husband of 12 years. Honestly, sex with straight guys was fun and exciting. Your sex partners don’t determine your sexual orientation.”
7. I want to
“I have a friend I met through being members at an organization. We frequently sext and send each other pics and videos. We’ve never done anything in real life, but I want to experiment with the real thing.”
Anonymous
8. As kids
“I experimented with my best friend a few times when we were growing up. I knew I was straight when I realized I felt completely indifferent while he was getting into it. It made me a whole lot more comfortable with my own sexuality. I’ve offered him much of the same advice about the guys he dates/is into as I would with my other friends about the women in or around their lives.”
9. Just jerking off
“For me, as a straight guy, hooking up with other men was just a substitute for masturbating. Also, the BJs I got from men were always much better than the ones I got from women.”
Anonymous
10. Only guy
“I had a retail job and became pretty tight work buddies with one guy. We set our availability to match each other’s and even carpooled together. After some time, he decided to leave for a new job. On his last day, a bunch of us went out to celebrate with him. The night went on, and the rest of our coworkers headed home, so it was just him and me left. We tried our luck meeting some women at the bar, but no dice. We decided to call it a night but were too buzzed to drive home, so we hung out in his car until we sobered up. Eventually the conversation got to how we weren’t going home with anyone for an ‘adult slumber party.’ He kept saying how it would’ve been the cherry on top of his perfect last day…”
“I felt for the guy, and he was my best friend at the time, so I offered to take care of him for the night. He hesitated a bit, but it wasn’t long until we acted like teenagers in the back of his car. To this day, I’ve never been with another guy (I’m very much into women). The two of us are still good friends. Every now and then we’ll get together to be naughty, but he’s the only guy I would do that with, and he’s told me he feels the same way.”
Anonymous
11. One time
“Most of my hookups with other men were one-time things, but some were regulars. I’m not entirely sure why they specified that they only wanted straight guys, but I never questioned it. I was just happy to receive their services.”
Anonymous
12. Felt shaken
“I studied abroad in Australia in the early 2000s. It was my first time being away from anyone who knew me, so I felt free and open to dive right in and have my sexual awakening (with ALL the wine flavors). I was bashful and didn’t know how to meet another guy for a hookup, so, while walking around the city one day, I went into an adult video store. There was a section in the back that was all dark. You had to pay to get in, and there were rainbow flags by the door. My heart was beating so hard. I paid the bouncer and went in. Through a dark labyrinth with loud club music, I came upon a couple being VERY intimate. They reached for my hand…”
“But I had to pass — I was not ready for a threesome in the open for others to watch. I walked farther in and explored the different rooms until my eyes locked with another cute guy. We smiled, and my heart started to beat faster, so I took his hand and led him to a private room. It was the first time I felt another man inside me. He was sweet and passionate, as well as quiet and strong. I felt shaken. It awoke something inside of me. It led me to be more confident in myself and what I like sexually. I’m married to a cis-woman (have been for over a decade) and am very happy. I highly recommend exploring your likes and dislikes instead of just assuming. As for that guy at the video store, I never saw him again.”
Anonymous
13. Still enjoy it
“I first experimented with my best friend when we were teens. Fast-forward 14 years, and I decided I wanted to try it again, so I hooked up with a guy from Craigslist (back when that was a thing). We hooked up three or four times before losing touch. I’ve never told anyone about those experiences, but I’ve been thinking a lot lately about wanting to do it again. I thought that I was probably bisexual, but I’ve never been attracted to men, and I’ve only ever had romantic feelings for women. So, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am straight, and I just enjoy the occasional ‘bro job.'”
Anonymous
14. Into some stuff
“I’ve always been into wearing lingerie for sex, but I’m not submissive and love penetrating women (which is typically more rare for a cross-dresser). When I was single, I started hooking up with open-minded couples because it was more difficult for me to find women who liked that I dressed up. The boyfriend/husband would go down on me to warm me up before I’d have sex with his wife. The power dynamic of another guy pleasuring me before I’d play with his wife, all while I was wearing sexy lingerie, really turned me on, and everyone involved was equally satisfied! I identify as heteroflexible.”
15. He did the work
“I received head from a guy who lived near me, simply because I wanted to know what it felt like. I have a female friend who is bi, and she said that women know how to do oral better than most guys, so I just had this thought that it would be the same for guys. I was on a site for swingers at the time, and after a few drinks one evening I just thought, Don’t knock it until you try it. I messaged a guy near me and told him I just wanted a quick BJ, and he agreed…”
“He did all the work. I didn’t finish because it felt, well, awkward. It was OK I guess, but I didn’t feel comfortable having a guy doing it. I told him to stop and said sorry for wasting his time. He was understanding and held no hard feelings (he knew it was just an experiment), and I left. I’m glad I did it, but I wouldn’t do it again.”
Anonymous
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“I was 26 and working the front desk at a large resort. We got a new hire (I’ll call him John), and I began training him. The first few days were normal, and we got along great. John was good-looking, and while I wasn’t into him sexually (I’d only ever been attracted to women), there was something about him that made me feel excited and airy or something. We eventually exchanged numbers and made plans to hang for beer, pizza, and video games. While at his house, I went to hand him his phone to order the pizza, and his fingers touched mine, but we didn’t flinch. He put the phone down and kissed me. I kissed him back. We made out in the kitchen and then went to his bedroom. We got naked…”
“…and we did oral. I got on top of him, and our bodies grinded together. I had an intense orgasm, and so did he. I ended up spending the night. We fooled around again in the shower that morning, and each had another orgasm before I left. We continued training and working together and hooked up a few more times before John quit about a month later to move to a different city five hours away. We have sorta kept in touch, though we’re both married now (him to a man, me to a woman), and I have kids. I’ve never felt like that about another man since then, and I doubt I will. I consider myself straight, and I’m glad that experience happened. I guess sometimes a fling is a fling, and it doesn’t matter who it’s with.”
Anonymous
17. No luck
“A buddy of mine and I hit the town one night but didn’t have any luck. We ended up back at his place, with several rounds in us and nothing but hormones. We ended up fooling around — hands and mouths went almost everywhere. We woke up the next morning and tried it again, but it was not like the night before. Overall, it was a fun experience. We were jerk-off bros for a while after, but then it just kind of fizzled out.”
Anonymous
18. Teens
“When I was in my early teens, a friend and I experimented a number of times with swapping BJs. It was fun, and I don’t regret it at all. I suspect a big part of it was that we were best friends, so it didn’t seem awkward. In adulthood, I assumed I was a bit bisexual due to those earlier encounters with my friend. I was in a dry spell with women, so I decided to try men but quickly learned that I don’t feel any attraction to men, and unless I’m unusually turned on I’m kinda repulsed by the idea.”
Anonymous
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