Nate Armbruster
Celebrating a child’s birthday is supposed to be fun for everyone involved, but sometimes planning can bring conflict. Especially for parents.
One Redditor found himself in a frustrating situation after his wife decided to make changes to the special cake he ordered for his daughter’s birthday.
His Wife Changed The Type Of Cake He Ordered For His Daughter’s Birthday
So he’s turned to Reddit’s AITA community if he’s wrong for returning the cake after she took it upon herself to change it.
Here’s What They Said:
AITA for returning my daughter’s birthday cake after I discovered that my wife made changes to it?
OP Explains:
I (M37) have a daughter (now 13) “Olivia” from my former relationship. Currently, I’m married to my wife who has a daughter (16) “Britney”
So, Britney is the opposite of Olivia. for example, Britney s a social kid, and Olivia is introverted. the list is long but they’re just the complete opposite.
Olivia’s 13th birthday was 2 days ago. She loves chocolate and I decided this is the flavor I was going to go with when I contacted the bakery. However, my wife objected since Britney absolutely hates chocolate and suggested we go with Vanilla.
I said no way because for one, Olivia hates vanilla and it’s also her birthday so, she gets to have her cake with her favorite flavor. My wife got upset and took it as in I had no regard for Britney and that we should just choose another neutral flavor instead. I shut that down and said no more discussing this because I’d already decided to go with what Olivia wanted.
On the day of the birthday, I was supposed to go get the cake but I was surprised to see my wife coming home after picking up the cake from the bakery. I looked at it and discovered that it wasn’t a chocolate cake but a vanilla cake with small pieces of chocolate on top. I got pissed thinking they got my order wrong and was about to contact them, but my wife said there was no mistake and that she called the bakery the day before and made “slight changes” to the cake to please both girls.
I was stunned I lost it on her and asked why the hell she did that. She got defensive saying that birthdays are no “excuse” to show favoritism and that her daughter is “watching” and “observing” how I’m treating both girls. I told her off since I was the one paying then called the bakery and explained what happened. I had the cake returned and replaced with a chocolate cake. although this one is smaller, it was fine.
My wife declined to take part in the celebration and later we got into a huge argument where she called me controlling and selfish for returning the cake instead of using this opportunity to teach Olivia to compromise so everyone’s happy. now I’m teaching her to be “selfish”. I said that my daughter gets to act “selfish” on her birthday and that she (my wife) was teaching her daughter to be entitled. Word for word and it led to a bigger argument. We’re not talking as of now.
AITA for returning the cake and not taking my wife’s input into consideration?
Commenters Overwhelmingly sided with OP saying that they’re NTA. Here’s how they came to their decision:
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