Kate Hackett
NORMALLY, I’d come down so hard on somebody who dictates what his girlfriend wears.
NORMALLY, based on that title alone, I’d be like: yes, assh*le, NEXT.
But this post is … not normal. It’s kind of insane because, uh, not once is the OP disrespectful to his girl when he points out that maybe, you know, she should wear clothes for the comfort of others around her. It doesn’t come from a place of “you’re mine and only I can see you” but from a place of “wow, other people don’t like this, let’s consider them too”.
So yeah, this one’s not so cut and dry. Let’s read exactly what he wrote.
AITA for telling my girlfriend to cover up her body when strangers enter the home?
I am FULLY aware the title sounds sexist but hear me out, please.
Haha, he heads us off immediately. Yes it does sound sexist, u/f4faa!
My girlfriend comes from a wealthy background and grew up with maids, chefs, chauffeurs etc. I was raised in a completely opposite environment and still adjusting to dating someone like her.
When we’re not with her parents, we spent a lot of time at one of her apartments. Here’s the issue: my gf likes to walk around home barely wearing anything which is fine (awesome even) BUT she does this even when the ‘help’ are around.
“The Help” already has me lifting my eyebrows. OP explains that he grew up in a different universe and isn’t used to having maids and chefs, so this world is unfamiliar to him.
For example last month her family hired a new driver for her. He stopped by the apartment to introduce himself. She was only wearing underwear. Keep in mind, this is the FIRST time they’ve met in person. I felt awkward, he was visibly awkward and she didn’t give a shit at all. She was casually chatting to him while a scrolling away on her phone.
And when she meets a new driver for the first time, she wore underwear. Everyone, except the girlfriend, was uncomfortable.
She does this all the time. She doesn’t think she needs to wear any decent amount of clothes at all when people that work for her are around. She will casually walk around wearing just a thong OR a tiny crop top (just a crop top, nothing else).
This is a pattern: when people who work for her are around, she just… wears nothing.
She even does this with complete strangers! One time she opened the door for the delivery guy wearing only a see through gown. You could see everything. Afterwards I talked to her about it and she was utterly confused as to why I felt uncomfortable. Then she laughed and told me to “stop being a jealous baby”. She even said that I’m unreasonable.
Delivery guys are included in this train wreck! When OP tried to talk about it, she called him jealous and laughed it off.
We had another discussion about this yesterday and I told her that she probably wouldn’t feel comfortable if I did the same. She said that she doesn’t understand why I care what her staff think and that it never even crossed her mind that this is inappropriate. She told me that she only does this in the comfort of her home and not in front of“actual people” i.e. people that don’t work for her.
And here’s the killer: when OP brought it up again, she said the help wasn’t “actual people”. YUCK.
She got kinda mad at me and vented to her friends. According to all of them, I’m “weird” for having a problem with this and an asshole for telling my GF to cover up. Somehow I’m the villain of this story. Am I really the asshole?
So OP comes to Reddit to wonder if he’s really the asshole. And y’all, I think no? I think he’s being totally fine to point out that it’s making everyone uncomfortable. Let’s see if Reddit agrees with me.
Glad I’m not the only one!
So what do you think: asshole or naw?
