Woman Gets Upset Because Her Dog Sitter Slept In Her Bed And Asks ‘AITA’

This AITA post from u/FeudalFavorableness is WILD to me. Absolutely insane!

I have a dog and two cats and I have petsitters come whenever I go out of town and OF COURSE I open my home to them — that includes my bed! If they’re staying over, they’re welcome to make themselves comfortable.

But here we have someone wondering if she was wrong to be angry that her dog sitter slept in her bed. Yes, lady. Yes.

OP explains that she hired her babysitter to watch the dog while they went on vacation.

So for the family vacation this year the lady who normally watches my kids for date nights offered to watch the dog this weekend so we did not have to board her.

When OP noticed the garage door was offline, she checked on the cameras. In doing so, OP discovered that the sitter was sleeping overnight in OP’s bed.

I noticed the garage door opener was offline so I began to check the camera to see if she was there so she could reset the breaker. In the process of checking the cameras I discovered that she has been taking food/drinks to my bedroom and sleeping there during the night and most of the day all weekend.

For whatever reason, this struck OP as weird.

Personally I have house/animal watched several times over the years and have NEVER slept/ate/drink in the owners bedroom.

So now my question is AITA considering she does not live there and have just decided to do whatever they want?

So… is she the asshole?

Edit- additional info she was paid to watch the dog

Reddit weighed in. One user was fairly gentle:

What do you mean that your “understanding” was that she would come by and check on the dog?

When you hire a pet sitter , you either have them live at your house with your pets or you arrange for a certain number of visits a day. I’ve never heard of hiring a pet sitter and telling them to swing by the house whenever. Why was your arrangement so vague that even you can’t verify what you hired her for? Either she was staying at your house or she wasn’t. If she wasn’t, then she shouldn’t have even entered any bedrooms.

NAH, but you do need to be clear on expectations before you leave.

Another pointed out that the description OP provided was very vague. ” I would not be at all surprised if the communication with the dogsitter was just as vague. Which essentially left it up to the dogsitter to decide how she was going to handle things,” they said.

Someone else gave a firm YTA judgment:

Yes, YTA for being pissed for a number of reasons.

First, dog sitting is not the same as cat sitting; dogs need to be fed multiple times a day and need to be let out at indeterminate times to go pee / dump; they also need to be taken for walks. If the person was not “living in”, they would need to be repeatedly coming over during the day.

Second, it doesn’t appear that there was a “clear and definitive” discussion about what was and wasn’t included, so in the absence of her breaking any specifically agreed provisions, you are the AH for being pissed about what was an ambiguity (her staying overnight).

Finally, you don’t say anything about paying her for this (you mention she “offered”), so if you are saving on dog kennel, her eating some of your food is not a big deal.

Should she have eaten in your bed … probably not, but not a huge deal. Normally my judgement would be N.A.H. but you asked if you are an AH for being pissed, and for that, the answer is “YES”!

Another comment agreed, “when I hire a dog sitter we agree on a price and services (walks and feedings per day, hours of play time times of walks/ feedings etc) and I always let them know they are free to stay or not stay the night, can help themselves to anything (especially if it’s gonna potentially go bad while I’m gone). I pay fairly, well over $200/ weekend, and a nice place in town away from roommates with nice things is a bonus if they want it.”

Another user wrote in that there were no assholes here, “You’re not an ah for being bothered that she slept in your room and she’s not an ah cause you never told her that she couldn’t. That’s something that should be communicated. Even my best friend pointed out “hey, we set up the spare room for you” or “I put some blankets on the pull out couch for you when you stay over”. You don’t necessarily have to outright say “don’t sleep in my bed”, but you should at the very least HINT at it. If you really don’t want someone in your room, you make it clear.”