Kate Hackett
I mean, listen, I definitely fall on the “ewww” side of this story but would I actually kick this woman out of my party?
A woman was recently kicked out of a party for calling her boyfriend “Daddy” and some people might see the term as one of endearment, others find it inappropriate or uncomfortable. But is it worth kicking someone out over? Let’s read the story from u/throwawaypartydad and find out.
OP explains that she was hosting a small hang with some friends. One girl came in and sat down on her (the younger woman) boyfriend’s lap. OP found this weird — kinda judgy, OP.
I (F24) was hosting a small-scale hangout with about 15 friends. One girl (F23) is an acquaintance of mine and she came with her boyfriend. We were all sitting around in the main room and eating pizza when she came to sit and sat on her boyfriend’s lap. A little weird since there were open seats, but I didn’t say anything.
Then when they were chatting, she kept referring to that boyfriend as “daddy”. Look — not my vibe, but also not harmful to OP.
While we were talking as a group, she would always refer to her boyfriend as “daddy.” She would interject with things like “daddy just bought me a new stand mixer” and “daddy looks so handsome in this shirt right! I told him to get it!”
It seems that a fair few number of the group felt uncomfortable.
At first, we thought she was joking or messing with us, but she continued doing it and the rest of us were side-eyeing each other and were kind of uncomfortable.
So OP asked the woman if she could hold the pet names for private areas since they weren’t feeling very chill. This girl grew irritated, as I think most people would.
I asked her if she could save the pet names for home because some of us were feeling uncomfortable. She got upset and told me to stop making such a big deal over a nickname and slut-shaming her. I told her that wasn’t my intention at all, but I would appreciate if she could stop because it was killing the vibe.
The situation snowballed and OP asked the pair to just leave. They eventually did.
She started ranting at me about a whole lot of stuff, and I just told her and her boyfriend to please leave. Her boyfriend was pissed too but they eventually got out.
OP now feels awkward… so… was she wrong?
The rest of the evening was less uncomfortable and way more peaceful (a few of my friends who didn’t know the girl I kicked thanked me for making her leave), but we all felt kind of awkward because of what happened. AITA?
I feel like yes, OP probably should’ve just sucked it up and stopped feeling so weird about someone else’s pet name.
That said, I do agree with this user, who explained that the girl was not a good guest in OP’s home:
NTA
The girl failed at being a good guest at your party. She was informed politely to save the pet names for home. Then, she said you were slut-shaming her. Interesting choice of thought from her, yes? That she assumed your not liking the pet name “daddy” was slut-shaming? Sounds like someone believes they are acting like one and it’s not you.
Then she started ranting and being a total AH. She deserved to be booted from the party. And, I assume you won’t be inviting her to any other parties after the drama she created at this one.
Rule 1 of being a good guest is to respect the hosts’ requests. She refused to do that. So insisting she leave is NTA.
If you’re told you’re making people uncomfortable, it’s good manners to do your best (within reason) to accommodate that.
Finally, I think this person really did nail it on the head:
“NTA, although the title is misleading. You didn’t kick her out for calling her bf “daddy”, you kicked her out because she started yelling at you in your own home when you politely asked her to stop using the nickname (of a potentially sexual nature) as it was making everyone uncomfortable,” wrote DragonMaster7433.
