Kate Hackett
I personally absolutely loathe videos of people at their worst. I don’t want to see someone on the most stressful day of their life or having an epic meltdown. The lack of empathy people have for things they see on the internet pains me — and u/gfdriving really found out the consequence of not having that empathy for his actual girlfriend.
OP posted in Reddit’s AITA forum wondering if he was wrong for posting a video of his girlfriend getting into a car accident.
The post begins with OP saying that his girlfriend swiped a parked car and rear-ended someone within the span of a few months.
A few months ago, my girlfriend crashed our car and swiped a parked car while getting out of the driveway and about a year ago she rear ended someone.
As “educational material,” OP posted it to YouTube and allowed compilation videos to be made with his footage.
I posted the video from home security and the dashcam video for each incident on youtube as educational material in case it might help learner drivers etc. I got responses from some accident compilation video creators and gave them permission to use the videos.
He claims that his GF did everything right after the crashes, that there was nothing “bad.”
There is nothing wrong with the videos, she did not do a hit and run or anything and dealt with both situations well. All then show is the accidents and her getting out of the car, putting her hands on her head and inspecting the damage.
But once OP’s girlfriend found out about the videos, she was furious. OP tries to cite that because the cameras are his, he’s allowed to. What??
Recently apparently someone sent anonymous messages to her and some of her friends and coworkers with a link to the video I uploaded. She got really mad at me and called me an AH for uploading the videos without asking her. However both camera systems were put by me and I manage the devices. She then accused me of sending the anonymous message when it was not me.
He did delete the videos, but it’s the internet: that shit’s up there forever.
I have since deleted the video but some of her friends found the copies other people had included and teased her about it.
So OP is left wondering if he did something wrong — uh. Yes, dude. Yes.
AITA here, I don’t understand since it is not such a big deal, these things happen all the time and there are loads of similar videos on the internet, and it is not even that easy to recognize her especially in the home security video.
After Reddit absolutely slammed him, he did realize his mistake — which is probably the only good thing he’s done in this whole post.
EDIT: Oh I get it I was the AH, I did not realize how embarrassing it would be for her as I post dashcam videos all the time. I will apologize to her again and make it up to her and take her some place nice.
Let’s check out what fellow Redditors said to this guy to make him see reason.
Another user wrote simply, “YTA. You don’t haVe the right to post that without her consent.”
“YTA. and don’t pretend it was to “help learner drivers” This was just an act of you trying to humiliate her, and you gave others permission to do so as well,” wrote a second Redditor.
