Kate Hackett
Hoo boy, couples fight over some weird stuff, y’all.
FIRST OF ALL, I don’t care if you’re a grown ass human or a child: a birthday is not an ENTIRE MONTH. Especially so if you’re an adult, but let’s not feed kids this insane behavior either. If, maybe, your birthday falls on a weekend, sure, take the two days. But otherwise? ONE DAY, GUYS. It’s one day.
u/Key-Ad-5798, poor thing, has a husband who thinks a birthday is a month-long event in which everyone caters to him. Reality came for him hard when OP did not stand for it.
She had off for a few days and spent the time cleaning everything.
I have been off the last 4 days. So I finally had a chance to do some spring cleaning. I deep cleaned the whole house. Yes this did take all 4 days. I did bathrooms, fans, oiled wood tables, opened and cleaned windows everything.
Her husband also expected OP to cook him every single meal because she had time off. Yes. This guy.
My husband sees I am off and I have had to serve him every meal since I am home. 90 percent of the time I don’t mind. Yesterday I was tired and was making steaks for dinner so I didn’t feel like making a breakfast omlette too.
OP was pretty tired and skipped making breakfast because she knew she’d be doing steak for dinner. He pitched a fit.
He got upset and I ended up making both breakfast and dinner. Since I didn’t want to fight but he says I made a face.
After dinner, she told him she wasn’t cooking anything the next day. Everyone agreed.
After dinner last night I packed up left overs and made it clear that I would not be making ANYTHING tomorrow. Everyone agreed since I work today.
She gave him a quick bide in the morning anyway and then went to pack some clothes for a trip. He asked for his leftovers, she reminded him: she’s not cooking today!
When he got off work this morning I served him something quick to eat. I have a hotel booked for this weekend for us. I was tring on clothing and packing whe. He asked to heat up his left overs. I said “I told you yesterday I wasn’t making anything today.”
And this dude was pissy about …the birthday month. Yep. There it is. OP said no, husband pitched a FIT.
He responded with “you’re going to make a problem over heating something up on my birthday month” I responded with ” I am tired and explained yesterday you keep making problems with me over food” he turned it around and said ” no you’re making the problems over food. You just don’t want to serve me anything any more. Cancel the reservation I’m not going anywhere. Thanks for ruining my birthday month!”
But she caved! She gave him his food and he didn’t even eat it! God, this guy.
Now I did heat the left overs which ofcourse he refused to eat. And the reservation is too late to cancel so now I’m out money too.
Oh my god, I hate him so much. Thankfully, Reddit does too.
Another Redditor wrote, “NTA but your husband is. He wants you to cook, clean and organize everything and all he has to do is show up? He sounds very controlling.”
Other Redditors warned OP about abusive behavior. One wrote, “As a woman who spent a decade in an abusive relationship catering to a narcissist, get out now. I stayed. It was a mistake. A huge one. I ended up so brainwashed that by the end of it I was the only one working, cleaning, caring for the kids, and I was funding his addiction. I became a bang maid with an ATM attachment, and it was a living hell. Please, PLEASE don’t let yourself fall any farther into this. Please preserve your sanity, your self respect, and your dignity.”
