Kate Hackett
I cannot stand men who get in my way so it’s tough for me to wrap my mind around how other women can tolerate it. I would be furious if I were u/CharlieOutlaw23, who recently shared a story about how her husband meddled with her alarm and caused her to miss a test.
Strike that: I would’ve left the second he started whining about studying. Dude, I’m BETTERING MY FUTURE STFU.
I f23 have been married to my husband m26 for a year. I’m in my last year of university and been so so busy for the last two weeks, with many projects and finals looming. My husband complains from seeing me studying and not doing activities together or hanging out with friends anymore. I’ve told him it’s not gonna last forever and that I need to focus because this is my last year and it’s been the hardest.
Here he goes, complaining and whining about his wife, who is in her final year of school, studying.
The day before the exam he wanted me to go with him to a friend’s birthday party. I refused because I was busy preparing for my exam. he pleaded with me saying it’s just one hour and talked about how his friends will be upset if I’m not there. I said no and shut down any further discussions. He got upset and called me selfish and inconsiderate but then dropped it.
OP’s husband begged her to go to a party, but she said she needed to study. He kept whining and she shut it down. Atta girl.
Before I went to bed, I set my alarm clock like I always do since I’m a heavy sleeper+I stayed up late studying. The next morning I woke up at 9am. I literally freaked out and checked my alarm and found that it was set to go off at 9:30 am.
The next morning, OP’s alarm had been messed with: she slept in until 9am. OP blew up at her husband.
I had no idea how this happened til my husband told me he did this to repay me for refusing to take one, one hour to attend the party so he took this hour from my time. I couldn’t believe it I absolutely blew up at him just yelling and screaming at him left and right. He just stood there shocked from my reaction and my rage. I got dressed quickly and rushed to the university.
OP missed her exam. She managed to move a mountain and get the test rescheduled. Did her husband apologize?
They didn’t let me into the exam hall. I got into a lot of hassle to get them to re-schedule the exam especially since I had no legit reason as to why I was late. It was awful is all I can say.
No. He acted wounded. F that, buddy. You did something shitty.
I went home and my husband and I stopped speaking to each other. He kept acting as if I hurt his feelings and traumatized him by yelling. And that I deserve what he did since he was frustrated with my continual refusal to attend all events for the past 2 weeks. I might be wrong for not considering it but I think that my exams should be a priority and his way of “teaching me a lesson” was not right.
Also: stop teaching grown women anything. Christ.
So here’s how Reddit felt:
My husband and I started dating around the time of my second Master’s and got married after I had completed it. Now I’m in a PhD program. Through all of it I’ve had to work insanely hard but never has the man complained once.
Your partner should be understanding the importance of your education and career.
NTA OP but I strongly suggest rethinking living with this man
NTA – He did this totally out of spite KNOWING it would cause you to be late to your exam. You are right, university doesn’t last forever and you will be able to go out and do more fun things when it’s over.
Might be worth reminding him that it’s actually going to be longer until you can do that now that you’ve missed your exam.
On an unrelated note, if you just simply didn’t want to go that should also be fine? He doesn’t need you to hold his hand everywhere. He seems disrespectful of your time, your work and your autonomy.
He punished you because you didn’t obey him. He tried to sabotage your degree (or at least passing a class) worth thousands of dollars… because you didn’t obey him. NTA, but I would be seriously reconsidering my relationship with a man who feels entitled to do this. I also wouldn’t trust him for a long as time, if ever again. Set your alarm on your phone and change your passcode so he can’t get to it. Make sure your bank account is separate.
Jesus Christ, he sabotaged you. How on earth is this your fault? This is actually evil, immature, childish, conniving. You’re nta at all. How badly will this affect your grade?
