Kate Hackett
We have an “Am I The Assh*le” post from Reddit that really took my breath away as I read it — not because the actions were shocking, but because I had such a dramatic change of heart midway through the story.
I’m a pretty big proponent of “live and let live” in relationships. I don’t care if you have friends, I don’t care if you’re friends with your ex, I don’t care. It doesn’t threaten or bother me.
HOWEVER.
u/Corners113 has a story that would have likely crossed even my very, very distant lines. Let’s take a read.
OP’s husband’s best friend leaned heavily on him after learning her dog had cancer. Sure. Understandable.
My husband’s best friend (female) got the news of her dog’s cancer days ago. My husband would call her everyday til yesterday when she visited.
OP lays out who everyone is and why this bothered OP so much…
Some context:
1: Ages of those involved are 26Female, 28Female, and 31Male.
2: She’s been his best friend/sister like for over 8+ years.
3: She tends to be very emotional and highly sensitive.
4: We don’t get along because she tends to be a boundary stomper and does/says things that make me feel like I don’t know my husband as much as she does. She also compares us as well.
5: Initially, I did not want her to come to the house but my husband called her and told her to come since he didn’t see her after the news was received til yesterday.
She visited the other day. OP grabbed glasses of water for everyone, but returned to find them… not in the living room.
I opened the door for her, greeted her then led her to the living room and went into the kitchen to get a class of water after my husband asked me.
I came back and didn’t find them in the living room.
Husband + Friend went into a guest room and closed the door.
Turns out they went into the guests room and the door was shut.
The friend was crying, embracing OP’s husband, clearly upset. OP stood there and her husband asked for a moment, but OP did not feel comfortable so she stayed put.
I heard weeping/sobbing sounds coming from the inside. I knocked then got in and found them embracing each other crying. I stood by the door but my husband paused and told me to give them a moment. I gotta say that I did not feel comfortable with his request so I remained standing.
This started an argument with her husband — he asked for privacy and OP would not give it to them. She said they don’t need to shut the door.
He got up and started repeatedly telling me to get out. I told him it’s my house and he can’t tell me where I can and cannot stay. He got angry and told me to get out and we’ll talk later but I refused. He asked what was wrong with me for not seeing how tense the situation was and for not giving them privacy. I told him that they did NOT need to shut the door for any reason nomatter what it was.
The friend wound up leaving and OP and her husband fought more. She thought it was weird to have a closed door and her husband thought her upset was uncalled for.
We argued and she ended up leaving. He blew up at me afterwards calling me unbelievable and saying I had no respect for him and his friend who’s going thtough a hard time and refusing to give them privacy. I told him how weird it was for them to shut the door just becsuse they were crying. He told me that I was petty and overbearing to act like this infront of her and stopping him from showing proper support.
The husband dug in and now it’s a big issue.
Now he’s completely gone radio silent and is acting like I kicked her out or treated her poorly.
So what do we think: was she wrong? I hesitate to say she wasn’t because I don’t love the idea of being bothered by a closed door, but you know: I think I would be. Reddit by and large agreed with me.
