Husband Skips Wife’s 30th Birthday To Go To A Wedding And Asks If He’s A Jerk

I laughed just writing that title. I mean, of COURSE you are? How could you not be? What in the world are you thinking?

u/Acceptable-View-4318 had to ask Reddit itself if he was wrong “for going to my best friend’s wedding instead of my wife’s birthday party?” and I honestly can’t believe he even had to ask, but here we are.

He explains that his wife is turning 30 and has a huge party planned. His best friend is also getting married the same evening.

My wife is turning 30 and has planned a big birthday party with her friends and family, unfortunately my best friend has also got his wedding on the same evening.

OP PICKED HIS FRIEND. Oh lord, OP, why.

I have picked my best friend’s wedding as we are very close and I do not get along with my wife’s family.

His wife is super angry and this dumbass doubled down, refusing the tell his friend he can’t make the wedding.

My wife is now furious with me and demanding that I do not go to the wedding, but I can’t go back on the commitment I made to my best friend.

So, am I the asshole for going to the wedding anyway?

AND THEN THIS EDIT. I’m dead, y’all:

Extra info: The birthday has been planned for a few months now, invites have been sent and the venue has been booked, I got the wedding invite this week.

Yup. The wedding was a last second invite. Imagine being this clueless.

Reddit came down on this bozo hard.

One user wrote, “I guess if you want to be divorced, it’s fine to go to the wedding.”

“Weddings are (usually) a one time event, but a week invite before? Is that really a friend? Sounds like most the ppl he cares about will be at the birthday anyway,” pointed out a Redditor.

Another said, “Yeah maybe his friend will miss his wife’s birthday for OP’s next wedding. Honestly she’s turning 30 and has been planning for months. OP only just got the RSVP, I would go with the wife and send friend a good gift.”

“YTA simply because you accepted an invite that you received a week ago while she’s been planning this for months. Usually I’d say the wedding is more important but you already have a commitment for that day and decided it wouldn’t be as fun for you and that’s fucked up. The only compromise I can think of is attend the wedding and skip reception for the party,” wrote a third Redditor.