Kate Hackett
u/Carmenhost675 popped on Reddit to wonder if she was in the wrong after her husband spilled wine on her dress and she just flat out left.
If you’re anything like me, that summary would get kind of a side-eye but ultimately a shrug, but you HAVE to read this woman’s entire story. It’s… not great. Check it out below.
We start by noting that OP’s husband is from a wealthy family. Off to an alarm-bell start because when these stories start with a big explanation of differences, something’s going to get rubbed wrong.
I would like to start and say that my F.29 husband M.35 comes from a well off family and most of his friends are well off as well. Unlike me and my family we come from humble, working class and don’t own lot of assets like my inlaws do.
And here it is! The husband is apparently “image-conscious” and controls his wife’s look when they visit his family.
My husband cares about appearances. At first he didn’t try to control how I look, but did buy me things he said I’d love but nothing was my style really. After marriage he sat with me telling me I get 100% to choose how I look except when I’m with him or his family and introduced me to brands to choose my new clothes from and I started wearing them whenever I’m with his family and friends. although it limited my choice on what to wear because I’m more into simple things.
Surprise to nobody, it doesn’t stop just at family — the husband also controlled what this woman wore to his friend’s birthday at a fancy restaurant. The wife wanted to wear a $60 maxi dress. Husband? Nope.
For his friend’s birthday that was celebrated at an upscale restaurant. My husband bought me a $300. dress to wear for the ocassion but I didn’t like many things about it. I told him I’d just wear my $60 floral maxi dress. He didn’t think it was a good idea and said I was violating the “rules” he gave after we got married but I said the dress he bought wasn’t my style. I said I either wear my dress or not go. He said fine then whatever but still wasn’t happy.
Aaaand nobody gave a sh*t what this woman wore. Nobody. Except the husband, who was sulky about the whole thing. And then he spilled wine all over her.
We got to the restaurant and no one said anything about my dress (except his other friend who said I looked great). After dinner, my husband moved quickly and spilled wine all over my chest and lap. He freaked out and said that he thankfully had a replacement then pulled out the $300 he previously wanted me to wear out of the bag.
He had the expensive dress ready and waiting! (Of course he did) and the wife wondered: uh, was this intentional? So instead of changing, the wife just flat out left.
This whole time I couldn’t help but think he deliberately spilled the wine on my floral dress to force me into wearing the other dress. He handed me the dress and told me to go change. I got up but instead of going to the restroom, I made my way to the door. He asked me to wait but I kept walking while opening my phone to get an Uber to get me home. I stood outside and started arguing with him, he said he didn’t get why I was behaving like this and embarrassing both him and myself like that. I said that he looked down on my dress and tried to trick me into wearing what he wanted by spilling wine on me. He told me to go back inside but I said I won’t move til my Uber arrived. He threw a fit calling me an embarrassement and stood there till I left.
Husband threw a fit, he yelled at her at home, and insulted her again.
At home he went off saying I could’ve worn the dress and not make a scene, and then double down and walk out. again, I said he disrespected my choices and implied I was an embarrassement. he said he was just calling a spade a spade and I should quit acting so insensitive and getting offended over nothing.
He said I made a joke out of him infront of his friends and one of them (the one who complimented my dress, and the one who constantly tries to video chat with me whenever he sees me online) tried to call me but I didn’t respond because he made me feel uncomfortable. AITA? did I handle this right?
Let’s see how Reddit voted.
