Kate Hackett
You’d be forgiven for thinking that maybe this post is about a woman who has been unemployed for a long time and the loss of income is starting to grate on the family finances. BUT NO. TIS NOT.
It’s so much worse.
u/TAwifework35 is SUCH an A-hole I’m not even spoiling anything, but you have to read on to see just how big of one he really is — and why.
Me (26m) and my wife (24f) have been married for 4 years. During those 4 years she had the same job which requires her to be away Friday to Sunday, so she leaves early on Friday and returns about 4-5pm on Sunday. Occasionally it would be leaving on Saturday and returning Sunday. She also has to work some of the school/public holidays.
OP explains that his wife’s work takes her away from Friday through Sunday but she seems to have her week relatively free. Kind of a sweet gig if you don’t mind never having a weekend.
I work full time and get just a bit above minimum wage and tips, so our bills are split 60 (her) to 40(me). While I find myself struggling with money and having to have to borrow from the joint bank account, my wife never have this problem.
Their finances aren’t shared, so they use a 60/40 split and a joint account to handle shared expenses. OP sometimes struggles because he’s not making as much as his wife; she is doing just fine.
I know she is getting paid more then I do as she works for a high profile client, but I’m not sure by how much more. She also wouldn’t tell me what exactly she is doing, all I know is that it is connected to her degree and it is 100% not a sex work or nothing in that industry. The reason why she won’t tell me is because she signed the contract and it is highly confidential so she is not allowed to go into details.
The wife gets paid more but he doesn’t know quite how much more or any of the details of her job because it is highly confidential.
She does chores around the house but doesn’t cook (she admits herself she is a bad cook and hates it), instead she would order either those premade healthy meals you then heat up for herself or takeaway.
Chores, no cooking (doesn’t sound like OP does either). But still: if she’s working Friday – Sunday, that’s probably at least a 30-hour week, just condensed into three days.
When I’m home and she hasn’t ordered she will order for me too. So most of the day while I’m working she is either in our house chilling (watching TV, playing video games, reading or exercising) or shopping or in the gym.
And OP seems kind of bitter about the amount of free time she has during his workweek. She’s able to play games, read, or chill — he has to go to work. And how does he deal with his anger?
Over the years I got annoyed with this and have asked her to find another job so she has something to do while I’m working instead of wasting her day.
Oh yes, he tells her to get a SECOND JOB. That she doesn’t need.
She told me she is not wasting her day but relaxing and her job pays her enough so she can afford the lifestyle she wants.
For some reason, this ENTIRE ASS thinks it’s not fair TO HIM that his wife isn’t at work all the time.
I said it is not fair on me, as I come home tired while she has done nothing all day, to which she said I can find another job or a different job but I am an asshole for wanting her to find another job because I feel tired when coming back from my work, when she has already got a job she loves.
He then, of course he did, whined to his parents and they agreed with him. The wife and sister are furious.
After she won’t talk to me. I have spoken to my family and while my parents agree with me that she needs to work, my sisters took my wife’s side and called me a massive asshole.
AND THEN, oh god, this is my favorite part, he DOUBLES DOWN on this. I’m dead.
Edit: I’m not saying she needs to quit the job she has. I’m saying she needs to find another job to do during her freetime, could be a part time one, since she doesn’t really do much during the day.
Now listen — I would probably have an issue if my partner was able to retire super early or something and just literally did nothing while I had to keep working. I’m not sure quite how FAIR that would be, but it would definitely bum me out and we’d need to talk about it.
