Kate Hackett
Saying “I told you so” is one of those things that always comes off a little rude. Even if you’re absolutely right about it, there’s just no great way to say “I told you so”.
In romantic relationships, it’s even more obnoxious — in my humble opinion.
Which is precisely what we have in u/NurseYakub‘s recent post to Reddit’s AITA sub. He wants to know if he was a jerk “for telling my girlfriend that I told her so after one of her male friends tried to get with her?”
OP explains that he does not believe women and men can’t be friends, but specifically two of his girlfriend’s male friends seem interested in her romantically.
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now. My girlfriend has more than a few guy friends, and I’m not one of those guys that thinks men and women can’t be friends. However, with 2 of these guys, it’s very clear that they want more than just friendship from her. Like clear as day to the point where I don’t get how she doesn’t see it. If I can notice just by the weird energy they try to exude when I’m present, she should be able to get too right? Wrong.
But his girlfriend stalwartly rejects this idea. To the point of getting mad at OP.
Any time I have pointed this out, she gets upset with me. She tells me that I am being jealous and reading into things, that aren’t there.
Then OP pulls his absolute nugget of sexism out: he can tell better than she can because women are slow about this stuff.
Bye, rolling my eyes forever.
I argue back that I’m just letting her know and as a guy, I can probably tell much better than she can since women tend to be a little slow regarding things like this.
Eventually, his girlfriend’s friend did confess his feelings. She was uncomfortable and left.
So 2 nights ago night, she was hanging out with her friends and this guy was present. From what she told me, they were all drinking and he said some things that implied he’d want to be with her. She was made uncomfortable by this and the night ended shortly after.
The next day, the friend tried to apologize, but it devolved further. OP took this opportunity to sarcastically bite at his girlfriend.
Fast forward to yesterday morning. She got a series of texts apologizing for what he said, and then backpedaling and saying he would treat her so much better than me and she’s wasting her time with me. She of course said no and was upset with him. After she told me, I just read the texts and simply said, “Wow who could’ve seen this coming” a bit sarcastically.
She, predictably, got angry with OP. So now he wants to know: was he wrong?
This set her off and she got mad. She said that I was being such a huge asshole to her and she had no way of seeing this coming. She’s been pissed at me since.
AITA?
Oof. At least this one’s easy. What a turd.
One user wrote, “YTA So someone made your GF uncomfortable, overstepped boundarys, she did everything right, told him to get lost, and instead of comforting her and make sure she ist okay, you scold her? Are you insane? She lost a friend and was harrassed, and you tell her she deserved it? Huge AH.”
“I was on your side until I read “I can probably tell much better than she can since women tend to be a little slow regarding things like this.” And then I read more that showed you should have been supportive of her and not an AH towards her. So yes, YTA,” said someone else.
