Patricia Grisafi
Have you stopped wearing makeup during quarantine? I sure have! I’ve probably saved hundreds of dollars, too.
But sometimes, I miss getting dressed up and putting on eyeliner to go out and meet some friends, so I’ll swipe some on for fun.
On Reddit, one husband is fighting with his brother about makeup—namely, the fact that his wife has started wearing a lot after getting a gift.
The OP says his brother is behaving in a sexist way and keeps telling him that his wife’s new makeup hobby means she is cheating on him (after all, we know that wearing makeup means you are cheating on your partner).
The two of them had a blow-up over the cheating comments, and the OP doesn’t know what to do after calling his brother some creative names.
“AITA for calling my brother an ‘insecure, testicle-grabbing, chauvinist man-baby’ over his comments about my wife’s makeup? That’s the actual quote. I’m still pissed as hell but maybe I went too far here.”
The OP says that his brother and I are both in their late 30s and get along most of the time. However, his brother sometimes says “inappropriate” things and gets “overly opinionated.”
“Our wives are best friends. They talk almost everyday on FaceTime. My wife is an ex model/actress (local) and very good with makeup. She’s in her mid 30’s, we have 3 kids and she doesn’t wear much makeup anymore, but she got some as a gift for Christmas and decided she wanted to get more. Apparently she’s been buying cheap stuff and she wanted to splurge on some good shit. Anyway, she’s been testing it all out over the last month, buying more here and there and doing these crazy eyeshadow things — honestly I don’t know what I’m talking about. She looks great all the time. She’s gorgeous without makeup. She’s really talented with it though and she’s having a lot of fun. I tease her a little since she works from home and she’s wearing pajamas but her makeup looks like she’s at a nightclub. I think it’s cute and funny.”
The OP’s brother decided that a woman playing around with makeup instantly means that she’s cheating, so he called the OP and told him that he’s concerned.
After a fight, the OP called him the testicle thing.
“No, I haven’t asked my wife why she’s recently starting wearing more makeup and I’m not going to because I think asking is f–king rude. She’s spending her money on stuff for her face and it’s a creative hobby. I’m not going to be the d-ck that ruins someone’s creative outlet by asking them to justify it or by insinuating there’s a sinister motive behind it. It makes her happy so I assume that’s why she’s doing it. Asking why is dumb and insulting in my opinion.”
What do Redditors think?
Is the OP’s brother indeed an “insecure, testicle grabbing, chauvinist man-baby,” or is he just looking out for his brother?
“When I wear makeup, I do it for me. No my husband or any other man. Me. Many women are the same way. Your brother jumping to ‘she wants to cheat because she is wearing makeup again’ is absolute misogynistic garbage and he needed a dressing down. You sound great and seem to really love and appreciate your wife as well as understand what being supportive means. Keep it up,” said MistressOfNecropolis.
“I’m willing to bet money that the dudes wife is literally just bored and wants to practice makeup again, or just feel good about herself more often. I mean damn, I was off work for 3 months because of the pandemic and I still did my makeup every third day because I felt like it. When my husband got home and saw me with makeup on he would tease me and ask did I do my makeup to make TikToks. He was correct. He did not accuse me of cheating or using an OnlyFans account. That’s just absurd,” said emeraldpeach.
“You’re a good person. I would guess your brother was well-intentioned, but for the wrong reasons. And maybe this name-calling didn’t quite convey to him why what he was saying was wrong. You may need to have a calm heart-to-heart about him minding his own business once you have cooled down about it,” noted I_am_Rubber.
“Just wanna say I love your attitude. reading your responses to comments saying how you know she does it for herself and not other people makes me so happy because so many men don’t seem to understand that. Your brother is an asshole. And you’re a wonderful person,” said FrostbittenFires.
“NTA. I don’t really wear makeup. But being in lockdown bored stupid, I’ve been buying and applying! Makes you feel good too. Good for you, your wife is doing nothing wrong,” shared Absoluteseens.
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