Kate Hackett
I cannot stop laughing at this one.
I’m going to let you guys read through u/altacci5378754‘s with some sprinkled commentary but save my thoughts for after this time. But if you’ve ever wondered if you have odd design choices, wonder no more, friend, for nothing is goofier than this one:
OP and his wife have been together for three years and married for 9 months. They have a son.
I m32 met my wife 3 years ago. We got married 9 months ago. We have a baby boy together that she got pregnant with while we were engaged.
OP’s wife is a former sex worker and while OP was fine with it, his parents were VERY skeptical of her — and even demanded a DNA test for their son.
My wife used to be a s_x worker. No judgement on that please! She did what she had to do to survive. My parents were always being “skeptical” about her and lot of times asked if I wanna settle down with her. When she got prengnent, they went nuts and demanded a dna test. They refused to attend the wedding til the dna test was done which caused a huge problem.
While OP and his wife did do the DNA test, it was a huge source of conflict. They did make up, thankfully, though they missed the wedding.
They ended up missing the wedding obviously. The test was done BECAUSE my wife wanted to prove a point and eventually my parents made ammends and we reconciled.
When OP’s parents visited, they saw the photo of the test hung in the living room; to them, it felt like a shot about why they skipped this wedding.
They started visiting and yesterday noticed the photo of the dna test that I hang in the living room. They asked about it and I told that it serves as a reminder for why they didn’t attend my wedding, they were stunned and livid when I mentioned that I tell any guest the same thing I told them.
They were especially upset that OP shares this story with anyone who asks about it.
Mom and dad were mad and asked me repeatedly to take it down saying I’m being too harsh on them and refusing to let go of the past as well as embarrassing them to the other family members. I refused to take it down and I admit being sarcastic in my response saying “it goes with the house decor!.”
His parents were upset and asked him to remove it, citing that this is embarrassing and it’s “part of the decor”.
They begged then refused to come over anymore til I remove it. My brother thinks it’s petty and childish and said I should take it down.
OP’s brother says it’s petty and his parents are really upset about it. His wife also does not mind having the photo up.
Alright I’m editing some stuff in. First of all, my wife does not mind having the photo up , she laughs about it sometimes but she’s still carrying some hurt that was caused by what happened. And second of all, no, she no longer does s_x work it’s all in the past.
And did I mention that my brother and I aren’t close? He’s known as the “crackhead” in the family! So that’s that!
So — listen: yeah, this guy’s a total dick. Do his parents deserve it? Maybe? But what is the fucking point?
He is CLEARLY not over the entire thing, which is really the emotional crux of the issue: why try making amends if you are not, in fact, ready to make amends? You’re setting everyone up to fail: you’re intentionally hurting your parents because they intentionally hurt you.
The mature thing to do would be to discuss how harmful the request was and come armed with ways to move forward.
Reddit agreed that it was petty, but also thought it was okay to BE petty — I disagree.
