Kate Hackett
In a million years I will never understand why men are so squeamish about periods. Half the world gets one, what is your damn problem, guys?
With periods, comes period blood. Which needs to be thrown away. Usually in a trash can. Where the hell else would you have us put it?
u/Jason_Barret1029 recently wondered on AITA if he was wrong “for telling my wife that leaving her used pad in my brother’s place was inappropriate?”
Yes.
But read on to enjoy some pure fury.
My wife and I were invited to my brother’s 31st birthday. He’s single and lives alone in his apartment.
Can’t imagine why this brother is single. Just a real mystery.
So to give you the headsup, my wife and him don’t get along so well. But can be civil enough to sit at the same table.
OP’s wife and his brother don’t get on very well, but they can keep things civil. They were over to celebrate his 31st birthday.
So, we went and had dinner and talked and everything was going well, no argument nothing til after my wife went to use the bathroom. Later my brother went to use the bathroom then came back looking pissed.
After returning from the bathroom, OP’s brother seemed mad. OP eventually learned that it was because his wife left a used pad in the bathroom.
He kept giving me and my wife looks but I didn’t know what was going on til he pulled me aside before we left and told me that my wife had left her used pad in his bathroom.
OP was “shocked” and felt it was “inappropriate” (THIS GUY). He didn’t reality-check his brother whatsoever.
I was shocked and didn’t know what to say because this felt highly inappropriate. He said he didn’t appreciate what my wife did and that it was a sign of disrespect towards him. I apologized profoundly and said I didn’t know about it. He asked me to speak to her or she wouldn’t be welcome in his place anymore.
When OP asked his wife about it, she said it was fine and his brother was ridiculous. OP got angry and said it made his brother uncomfortable.
We got in the car and I asked my wife about it, she nonchantly said there was nothing wrong with what she did and that my brother was being ridiculous. I kind of flipped and told her it was very inappropriate for her to leave her used pad in his place even if it was in the bathroom and in the trashcan because it made him uncomfortable.
Rightfully, his wife asked WTF she was supposed to do? And OP — hold on, let me stop dying of laughter — said she should take the pad outside with her. Good lord.
She yelled asking what she was supposed to do and I told her she could’ve took it with her and threw it outside not in his bathroom — that’s my brother’s place and he told me how he felt about it. She yelled at me calling my brother an incel and me an asshole for “getting in her face about it”. She said she needed to use the bathroom and it’s not like the pad was vidible since she dumped it in the trashcan.
The woman put it in a trash can, it’s not like she left it on the counter.
At home we still argued about it and she kept on calling me and my brother names. She’s currently not speaking to me and is avoiding me entirely. Regardless, I feel like it’s his place and he gets to express what makes him uncomfortable in it.
OP doesn’t seem to get that he’s a complete douchebag here. He says the trash can has no lid — which, you know, not her fault.
EDIT. I can’t give info or expand on what was seen but I can tell you that the trash can does not have a lid. It’s not like one of those trashcans that have a lid on top and you can push it. What I want to emphasize on is the fact that as guests we should respect people’s homes and not argue about what makes them uncomfortable. He said it made him uncomfortable and that should, in my opinion, be acknowledged.
Reddit landed on this guy hard, thank goodness.
One user asked for some help: “Please walk me trough the logic here like I’m five, cause you lost me. The pad is too disgusting to put in the bathroom trash can, so you would rather that she put it in a pocket, her purse or just carry it around instead? It’s too disgusting for the literal trash can, so she should instead carry it on her person? During a birthday party?”
