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Pregnant Wife Doesn’t Want Her MIL In Her Delivery Room—Is She Wrong?

You’t think that people would know to respect a woman’s decision about her own medic–

HA HA NEVERMIND, thank you, Supreme Court.

So this story from u/Glass_Ad4738 is not about abortion, but it is about her right to decide who is in the delivery room with her while she gives birth. Would YOU want your MIL in there? (probably no.)

my (29f) husband (32m) J and me have recently had a baby girl. by recently i mean literally last night.

OP explains that she and her husband just had a baby. The interaction with her mother in law happened a few weeks ago.

a few weeks ago i was invited to dinner at my mother in law’s home. she told me she had something important to discuss and i knew exactly what was coming. when i sat down she held my hand and said, “me and J have talked and we think it would be best if i replaced your mother in the delivered room.”

The MIL in question told OP she’d like to replace OP’s mom in the delivery room. OP said, uh, no. She doesn’t want this woman in there.

i said i’m sorry but my mother has already been invited and i’m not comfortable not having her there. she started squeezing my hand tighter saying that it’s not just up to me. side note my MIL has never been the nicest to me. she would always make snide remarks about my weight and skin colour.

In fact, the MIL has never even been NICE to OP. So why she thought she’d get an invite in the delivery room is WILD. OP repeated the no, but when she got home, her husband was angry with her.

i said no again and said it is my choice as i am giving birth. the subject was then dropped but when we got home my husband blew up at me saying he has just as much a decision as me in this. i disagree it will be me giving birth and i need my mother there. he said fine and we both forgot about it.

JUST YESTERDAY, OP went into labor and called her husband, then hers. Her mom told her that the husband told her OP did not want her mom there. How awful.

yesterday i went into labour. first i called my husband as he was staying at his mothers at the time. then after about an hour i called my mother. she was shocked to hear from me and told me my husband said i didn’t want her there. i told her i do want her there and she came straight away.

OP’s mom got to the hospital quickly and when the husband arrived, he had MIL in tow. OP was furious and kicked both her husband and mother in law out.

my husband got to the hospital about 20 minutes after my mother and when he got there he had brought my MIL. i completely lost it. i started yelling at him and scolding him for telling my mother not to come then he started shouting at me for not letting him bring his mother. after he has shouted at me for about 5 more minutes i told him to leave. i said i didn’t want to see him or his mother ever again. I’m still not sure if i meant what i said or not. because of the stress put on my body the birth became more dangerous but my mother as here for me the whole way.

Seems like a very easy judgment: woman says no thanks to someone in her delivery room, you have to respect that. Even if it’s her husband’s family. Because it’s not his body on display and it’s not him pushing a live person from his body.

Here’s what Reddit thought about it:

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