You’d think from that title alone you were in for a session of sweet, sweet judgment, wouldn’t you Well, my friend: prepare to be surprised because this takes a turn.
u/throwawayaitabra recently asked if she was the assh*le for telling her friend to wear a bra around her baby. Why would you even ask that? Well…
I have a 6 month old, and just started allowing visitors. My best friend came to visit and I texted her suggesting she wear a bra or a thick shirt if she plans to hold my son because he grabs nipples, very hard and my friend has hers pierced and has told me they’re super sensitive.
Her six month old has a DEATH GRIP and loves boobs. Her friend? Sensitive nipples. So, you know …. the suggestion to wear a dang bra:
I explained this to her and she ignored my messages but she came over anyway, nipples poking through shirt and my 6 month old was staring hands ready. I offered to give her a sweater and she looked at me sideways and suggested I was sexualizing her breasts and she isn’t covering up.
I explained that wasn’t the case but she didn’t want to hear me, I respected her decision and asked if she still wants to hold the baby, she grabbed by son from me and within 5 minutes he had a death grip on her nipples and she jumped up screamed in pain and pulled him off of her.
OP offered the guest a sweater, the guest accused her of “sexualizing her nipples”, and OP watched as the inevitable happened: the guest had her boobs grabbed by a baby.
I said “that’s why I suggested a bra” this made her even more mad and said “No you suggested that because you’re a misogynist.” I was so confused and she left abruptly.
She keeps telling our mutual friends that I was sexualizing her breast and was trying to make her wear a bra or that i wouldn’t welcome her but that isn’t at all what happened
Am I missing something? I feel like her reaction is really uncalled for.
OP is now dealing with a jerk of a friend who a) is whining to their friends and b) telling OP to teach a 6 month old not to grab. Good luck.
ETA: in the midst of our arguing she suggested that i should teach my son to not grab nipples but he is just a baby