Patricia Grisafi
When you’re pregnant — even early on — it’s important to take it easy. Yes, you should be getting regularly activity, but don’t risk putting undue strain on yourself.
One Redditor explains that her husband got off a flight and immediately expected her to pick up his baggage and take it, even though she’s 12 weeks pregnant.
The two of them had a fight at the airport, and she OP was humiliated. Obviously, she shouldn’t be made to carry heavy luggage by a husband who is treating her like garbage.
“My husband (32) was on a business trip that last for 4 weeks. Once his got back he told me to come pick him up. I drove to the airport and got inside the get him from there. The second he saw me he let go of his two big bags and started walking. I tried to get him to stop but he told me to get the bags and follow him. Note that I’m 12 weeks pregnant but he tells me that I’m still ‘in good shape,'” the OP writes.
“I told him those bags were too heavy for me to carry but he went on a rant about how exhausted he was from sitting in that plane for 4hrs straight. His arms, neck, legs and back hurt. I refused to take a step ahead with those bags and told him it’s his luggage so he gets to deal with it. His tone got more tense and told me that I was being annoying. I told him to get someone to carry his bags for him and he replied, ‘I already have one and it’s you. Come on I’m so tired of standing’ then kept walking and ignoring me. I left his luggage where he left and walk straight past him. He freaked out and started yelling at me to get back. I walked out and got into my car and drove off because I was literally having none of it. I felt so upset and humiliated.”
“He got home by a taxi but was livid at me for leaving him at the airport just because he asked for my help. He also said I embarrassed him and made a scene and overreacted big time. He went upstairs and stayed in the bedroom after the shower. He is still upset with me saying I reacted poorly and in an unsupportive; inappropriate manner. AITA was this an overreaction?”
Redditors had some thoughts about this unacceptable behavior.
“NTA. A lot of abuse starts when the woman gets pregnant. And seriously, what dude in his right mind just drops his bags on his girl like she’s a valet. It’s time for a divorce,” said
“NTA. What the actual eff? He expects you, his pregnant wife, to carry his bags for him when he’s sat on a plane for 4 hours. 4 hours? What a hard knock life for him. It’s so easy to get a trolley to move the bags yet he wouldn’t even listen to you but just demand you carry his bags like a servant. You’re his pregnant wife, not his pack mule,” said
“NTA. My husband works at the airport and sees a lot of stuff like this. He used to think I was a bit loopy when I kept saying women are treated like slaves. Then one day, his eyes just opened and HE SAW IT. When men pull stuff like what your husband did in front of my husband, my husband will tell them to carry their own bags. And they do! These men are seriously gross. I’ve heard much worse stories than yours, and yours…I’m humiliated on your behalf. Don’t put up with shoddy treatment,” told
“NTA but I have to ask, does he normally treat you this way? This is pretty glaring red flag. He didn’t even speak to you? He not asked for help, but demanded you take his things for him? You’re pregnant and he’s expecting you to carry anything heavy? He yelled at you, in a public setting no less, because you wanted to be cautious with your pregnancy and you’re also not a servant to be ordered around? These are not normal or appropriate behaviors. Even if you weren’t pregnant, it isn’t okay to ignore your wife you haven’t seen in a month and expect then demand she carry your luggage,” noted
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