Kate Hackett
That first vacation with a partner can be incredibly revealing.
You learn exactly who they are in stressful situations and you figure out exactly how much you can take.
My last ex, upon reflection, did the same stuff that led to a breakup while we were on our very first trip. It’s so telling!
Recently, u/719917710 took to Reddit after a trip with her boyfriend and his daughter that went pretty sour pretty quick. She wanted to know if she was an asshole for how she responded to the daughter’s behavior.
As OP phrased it:
AITA for dropping him and his daughter off at a rental car place states away from home?”
Here’s her story. She and her two sons were going on vacation.
Long story short: I (27f) started seeing 44yo “Dave” 3 years ago. I have 2 sons, 9 and 6. He has 1 daughter “Ann,” 17. I booked a road trip for me and my sons roughly 3 months ago. A road trip consisting of roughly 26 hours worth of driving with stops in between. This is the first time I’ve ever been financially able to do much of anything with my children so I went all out. Planned to stop at every place they had ever asked me to go, basically. I was beyond excited to surprise them with this trip. We got home 4 nights ago.
And Dave decides he wants to tag along and bring his daughter, who has never really cared for OP. OP thought — oh, sure, what the heck! Maybe we’ll have some fun.
A week before leaving my Dave decides he wants to go with me and bring Ann as a “bonding” experience. We do not live together and Ann has never liked me because I’m “boring.” She has said this to my face. So Dave thinks it will be good. I didnt really want either of them to go but thought what the hell, why not. This could be good for us. Boy was I f-cking wrong. From the moment Ann got in to my vehicle she started complaining about absolutely everything. It was too crowded, too loud, we were taking too many stops, the boys were “too annoying” and “need to quiet the f-ck down and chill out”.
Reader: they did not have fun. Ann complained the entire time.
We get a hotel 9 hours in (PA). Its around 3pm at this point. Dave asks if he can take a drive with Ann because she was getting irritated with the kids. I told him he could if he makes it quick because I needed to go get dinner supplies. Three hours later he shows back up. Him and Ann went out to eat. So I make a comment saying “you didnt think we wanted to eat too?” And Ann snaps back with “I dont think we asked.”
Dave and his daughter took a breather but instead of being quick, they took THREE HOURS and had dinner. Leaving OP kind of stranded: she and her kids hadn’t eaten!
After comments like this for days I finally snapped. My boys are now saying they just want to go home because several times Dave told my kids to be quiet because of his kid’s comfort.
So OP, naturally, snapped. She hasn’t done anything fun with her kids, Dave won’t let her drive, and she’s had it.
At this point I haven’t done anything with my kids because the queen would have a fit if we pulled off anywhere AND Dave at this point basically refused to let me drive despite me arguing. IN MY CAR. So I snapped, told him to pull the f-ck over.
She kicks them out of their car and tells them to get a rental. The entire ordeal cost Dave a lot of cash and took a long time.
When he finally does, I drive to the nearest car rental and tell them to get the fuck out of my car. Dave and Ann both start flipping out. Ann saying she isnt going to get in a car that has “bed bugs”. Dave saying he didnt want to take separate vehicles and didnt have enough money for a rental because the queen spent over $1500 in 4 days. So I say “I dont believe I f-cking asked.” And take off. They were close to 800 miles from home. It took them 4 days to get home due to lack of money and needing to borrow. I’m being told I’m a selfish c-nt. AITA?
And all this led to OP wondering if she was an asshole for her reaction. I gotta say: nooooope. Here’s Reddit’s verdict.
What do you think? Is she TA?
