Emily Duprie
Arguably, people seem to enjoy a good babysitter scandal. It makes for good cinema and a juicy plot. However, no one ever wants to be on the bad side of a sitter/scandal scenario, and one mother on Reddit happened to find herself exactly there.
She posted on the “Am I The A-hole?” community after coming home to a recently-showered 24f babysitter, her husband, and some story about “spilled milk.” Offended that the babysitter had used her shower, and confused as to why her husband was home when he should have been at work, OP started a round of confrontation with both the accused and her husband.
Read her story in full below and let us know what you think could have been going on.
OP asked Reddit, “AITA for telling my kids babysitter that it was inappropriate of her to shower in my home?”
I hired a babysitter for my 5 and 3 year old kids 2 weeks ago. My husband works shifts while I work long hours at a marketing company.
So far we’ve had no issues til yesterday. I came home at 6pm and noticed the babysitter’s wet hair and new clothes. She told me she took a shower after one of the kids spilled milk on her. I was confused but visibly upset but she tried to “reassure” me the kids were fine, because my husband watched them while she took her shower which only lasted for few minutes. I was more confused that my husband was home when he had a shift to cover.
Uh oh…Red flag right away that her husband happened to be home and not at work. What need is there for a babysitter if one of the parents is home anyway?
I told her I didn’t think it was appropriate of her to shower in my home like that. She argued that it was fine and that she had no choice and couldn’t leave the milk on her like that. We argued and my husband heard the commotion and got involved. He said it was not as big of a deal as I was making it out to be but I told the babysitter that I did not appreciate how she basically ignored how I felt about this and dismissed my feelings still. She went home, but we still argued on the phone. She thinks she’s done nothing wrong and said I was being unfair when I mentioned potentially cutting from her salary after that.
OP snapped at the babysitter, refusing to accept her side of the story. Her husband on the other hand, defended her actions.
My husband keeps saying that I’m overreacting and the “poor girl” couldn’t handle having milk stains on her body and clothes. But I couldn’t help feel it was inappropriate and she should’ve checked with me.
So she asked…
AITA for my reaction? Just for info. I’m the one who pays her, not my husband. I told her to call or text (always available) if anything happens. I didn’t even know my husband was home at the time! If you noticed, I said that I argued with her even before she told me my husband was home. And no I didn’t know how big the stain was but she argued about being covered in milk for 6+hrs. As for the question of why my husband didn’t go to work? He said he was feeling a bit sick and swapped shifts with a coworker.
Interesting excuse, but it could be true? OP added a bit more context on her sitter.
The babysitter is 24. She said she has experience and yes she normally brings a bag of clothes, wet wipes and stuff like that with her.
Maybe OP was overreacting a little bit, but to me it seems that she’s projecting an insecurity she has with her husbands loyalty onto this younger and more susceptible woman. But who knows, maybe her anger is justified and it wasn’t “milk” that the babysitter had to go shower off.
Redditors couldn’t place an official vote of A-hole or not on OP due to a lack of information, but they sure had a lot of assumptions to make about what could have been going on. Below are some of the top comments on the post:
