Kate Hackett
I think about 80% of posts on Reddit’s AITA sub are about either in-laws or weddings. Something about these two things are just rife with struggle for people. Too much pressure on the day or the relationship, I guess. Either way: we have a new post from u/Xoxo76757 who wanted to know if she was an asshole for not letting her MIL spend the night in her (OP’s) bedroom.
She explains that she and her husband are newlyweds and her Mother-In-Law, who doesn’t respect privacy, visited unannounced.
Context: my husband (m34) and I (f26) got married 9 months ago, we live in a different town from his parents, and his mom visited us unexpectedly on friday.
Now to give some context about my MIL, She is okay-ish but has no respect for her son’s privacy and by extension, mine.
The MIL figured she’d get the master bed and lock the door. I’ll be honest, locking the door isn’t weird, and for some reason OP really got stuck on that. The real thing that’s odd is demanding OP’s room.
THE REAL KICKER? There’s a GUEST ROOM, apparently.
When it was time to go to bed, MIL requested that we let her sleep in the bedroom, on the master bed, not just that but lock the door as well because she explained she can’t feel comfortable enough to sleep without locking the door. I found this bizzare but I politely declined and suggeted other options like the guest room, couch and air mattress but no she turned around and presented these options to me. My husband agreed but I said no.
The husband was on Mom’s side, who was continuing to demand the use of the master bedroom. OP presented other options and even offered to pay for a hotel. MIL hated this.
This initiated an argument between her and I. During the argument I pointed put how I didn’t want to be keot out of my room and away from my stuff but she lashed out at my husband saying “Don’t you just stand there! Say something!” My husband told me to let her it’s just one night, but I told her those were all the options I had for her and if she didn’t like them then I could book her in a hotel. She took it as in I was kicking her out and started crying which made my husband upset.
MIL left at midnight and OP’s husband was angry about how OP treated a guest in their home. The whole thing exploded and OP was left wondering if she was awful.
She left at 12am and my husband blew up saying I disrespected his mom who was a GUEST at our house and treated her poorly, he then reminded me it’s our bedroom not just mine and I acted horribly to her causing her to go stay at a hotel in the middle of the night. He went to book a room in the same hotel as her and turned his phone off. The next day she went home and told the family who berated me calling my behavior towards MIL abhorrent and loathsome, now my husband is complaining about how I keep trying to ruin his relationship with his family and push them away.
But I want to know if I was really ta?
My personal verdict? The whole thing is so weird. MIL should’ve taken the no but I can’t fathom not offering my bed to a loved guest. Reddit doesn’t totally agree with me.
