Kate Hackett
I’ll never understand people who treat their in-laws badly. Even if you don’t particularly like them, there’s still generally a level of decency that should be afforded people who are part of your family.
u/Throwawaydinner344 recently shared a story about her husband and his mother that made me start rolling my eyes with the second sentence and I’m sure you will have a similar reaction; I’ll let OP explain.
I’ll start this off by saying that I, f32 have been with my husband Bob, m39 for 3 years, married for one. His mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of “you work too much”. Not true because sometimes I do make myself available but yet find myself excluded.
Right out of the gate, OP tells us that her MIL has been a pain in the ass from the start; she finds herself left out of family events and functions for no real reason.
Last week. His mom invited us for a celebratory dinner at the restaurant after she completed her recovery. I had to with that day but I ket her and everyone know that I’d be there at 8pm. Bob obviously knew I was coming.
OP’s MIL invited the husband and OP to a dinner; OP let her MIL know she would be there a little late because of work. But…
Thing is, when I arrived to the restaurant I saw that the table was full. All chairs had been taken and I just stood there with complete puzzlement while Bob and his mom just stared at me. His mom then told me there was no place left for me and that I could either have Bob get up and take his seat or …. go home.
When she got there, the entire table was full. And here’s where it gets really weird: instead of ADDING A CHAIR, OP’s MIL said there was no spot for her. Like, WHAT?
I was so upset but instead of going home I just went and took an entire table for me. Bob and his mom watched with their eyes popping out of their heads like they saw something so shocking… NGL I did get weird looks from the guests but so did Bob and his mom. It was awkward in all honesty.
So OP got a table for one, all alone. It was awkward and weird and the other patrons of the restaurant were giving everyone odd looks.
I had my dinner, dessert, then went home. I saw Bob and his mom staring grudgingly while I was making my way out.
Whatever — OP ate her food and left, husband and MIL glaring at her all the while.
He got home an hour later and yelled saying I embarrassed his mom infront of her guests. I yelled asking WTF was I supposed to do after I got denied a seat and he told me that it wasn’t his nor his mom’s fault guests arrived “before” me and took all the available chairs. I told him he could’ve saved me a chair!!!!!. he said that I could’ve just left instead, and reminded me that I was a “guest” and that I shouldn’t expect this level of entitlement to be “accepted”. He then went on about how I ruined the entire dinner for him and his mom with what I did and has been pouting about it for days now.
And then the husband absolutely blew up at this poor woman. Everything about this is insane. He was mad at her, she was mad at him, and on no planet is the solution to an extra soul appearing at a family dinner “you have to leave”. That’s some shitty middle school lunchroom crap.
I don’t get it, I really don’t. was my expectation really that entitled? I mean as his wife he should’ve saved me a seat. But clearly I’m missing something here.
Poor OP missed nothing. This family is just grade A awful.
