Woman Asks If She Was Wrong To Sell Husband’s Xbox After He Sold Her Antique Tea Set Without Asking

I’ll be honest, sometimes I read posts on r/AmItheAsshole and wonder: why the hell are you married to this dick?

This is definitely one of those posts!

u/__HeavenlyPeace399 took to reddit to ask

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She explains that she and her husband had been having money troubles and that her husband wanted to buy her a new, better tea set in exchange for getting his cancer-battling nephew a gaming chair. To make up for it, she sold the husband’s Xbox.

Here’s the full story:

Me F33 and my husband M31 have been struggling with money lately. I work at a hair salon while he works at a gas station, basically have minimum wages that barely pay rent and other expenses. We do not have any savings nor do we have the ability to save money. It’s been like this for years.

Recently I found out that the antique tea set that my grandmother gifted me was gone. My husband admitted selling it for $300+ to be able to buy a gaming chair for his nephew who’s recovering cancer patient. I didn’t take it well I told him this tea set was important to me and I wasn’t willing to let it go that easily, now if he was selling it to pay off debts or rent then maybe but a gaming chair? No, not okay. He asked me allow him to explain and said that A. I don’t use this tea set like ever so it’s just sitting in the cabinet, B. His nephew has gone through so much and wanted a gaming chair badly and he promised to award him for defeating cancer. And C. He said he will be giving me money to buy a better, modern tea set. But I refused to accept that it was gone and let go of it. I contacted the buyer and he told me I had to pay 450 to get it back which was unfair but since he was barely convinced to let me have it back then I needed to come up with the money. I sold the only thing my husband had that was worth money which was his Xbox. I got $400 and borrowed the $50 dollars from my sister. I paid off the buyer and he brought back the tea set. My husband found out and went off asking how I could do this to him. I asked him to hear me out then explained that I sold the Xbox since he was the one who gave away my antique tea set so he was responsible for getting it back. He said he promised to save money for me to get a better set but I insisted I wanted my grandmother’s tea set and nothing else even if it’s worth less because the sentimental value is worth a lot to me. He blew up calling me childish and that I should’ve sold his Xbox the only thing keeping him entertained in these awful times. He’s started sulking ever since and kept reminding me that he was the one with the short end of the stick since I got my precious tea set back, the buyer earned $150, but he lost his Xbox forever. He’s refusing to talk to me calling me evil with zero consideration for how depressed and upset he is feeling.

AITA for how I returned my antique tea set?

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So the question really became: why the hell didn’t he sell his own stuff to get money for this chair? Here’s how Reddit responded:


“NTA, he stole a valuable item which you endeared in order to buy a mega expensive gift. It belonged to your deceased grandma and it’s irreplaceable and sentimental to you. It was yours and you reclaimed it. It wasn’t the nessecary solution to sell his Xbox, but you need 2 for tango and it seems like the viable way to gather the money,” wrote Compensate1995.


Larcztar points out, “Nta He should have sold his Xbox in the first place if getting that chair was soooooo important. It wasn’t his to sell.”


So what do you think: who sucks more here?