Stephanie Barnes
Men have the bro code, and women have the girl code. These “codes” refer to a collection of rules that outline how each sex should operate. There are a lot of rules that focus on loyalty. For example, a rule that falls in both codes is along the lines of “thou shall not date the ex-boyfriend or girlfriend of your friend.” Obviously, this isn’t a super-serious thing for most people but there are folks who respect the code.
In a recent Reddit thread, women were asked to share what they considered to be the number one rule in the girl code.
The answers are smart, hilarious, and super wholesome. There are rules like, women should never put down other women, sisters before misters, and a host of others.
Here are 20 rules of the girl code that could easily be number one.
1. Sharing is caring
Even if you don’t like her, if she asks for a pad/tampon you give it to her.
2. Let ’em know
I think along with this, if you see that they have a stain from their period, you say it and help them out no matter what.
3. Play along…
If a young lady in public looks like she’s being threatened/stalked/harassed, go up to her and act like she’s your cousin, or friend. Big hugs. Come join us.
4. Don’t diminish
Don’t try to raise your own value by putting other women down. It not only makes the world an uglier place, but it also straight up doesn’t work.
5. Ask first…
Do not give out your friend’s number or social media without their consent.
6. Mother is always right
My mom says “you can fix another girl’s crown without telling the world it was crooked.” I love that sentiment.
7. Don’t judge
Don’t judge a SINGLE woman for having a healthy sexual appetite and enjoying themselves sleeping around. Just make sure they are using protection.
8. Bathroom buddies
This is something that just doesn’t happen in the men’s room. When I’m in the ladies’, all the people inside are my buddies now. Especially if alcohol is involved.
9. Just don’t do it
Don’t go with a guy your friend already dated/slept with.
10. Be helpful
If you see a girl who has a skirt tucked into her underwear or something along those lines, go tell her and help her. I’ve literally seen people not tell other girls and record them just so they can get a good laugh. It’s sad.
11. Victim blaming isn’t cool
If a woman opens up about her trauma/sexual assault, support her no matter what she was wearing, at what time she was out, where she was going.
Victim blaming isn’t cool.
12. Boyfriends are off-limits
Don’t sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.
One may think, what a waste of a number one. EVERYONE knows that. And yet, the person I studied abroad with and was roommates for two years with, who I thought was my ride or die, did this very thing.
A year before my boyfriend and I broke up.
When we were 27.
I didn’t find out until 6 months after I broke up with the guy. I never spoke to either of them ever again.
13. Don’t lie
Never lie about the status of a pregnancy for personal gain.
14. Don’t play devil’s advocate
Don’t play devil’s advocate when she tells you a man is making her feel uncomfortable.
15. Again, no judgment
Don’t judge women who don’t want to have children. There’s nothing abnormal about wanting to live a childless life. So many people act like it’s an aberration but it’s not.
16. Sisters before misters
Never embarrass another women for male validation!
17. If you see something, say something
Tell her if you know her partner has been unfaithful.
18. Protect other women
Protect other women. You don’t like her. She needs help? Give her your phone. Call police for her. She is drunk and there are men following her? Drop her home.
19. Carry extra
Hair scrunchie. Always carry an extra one.
20. Uplift
Always say uplifting things to each other.
