Stephanie Barnes
We’re not in the business of shaming anyone’s kinks or anything else that makes them happy, as long as there’s consent all around and it’s not causing harm to others. But it seems some folks feel differently.
There are some kinks that are just so bizarre that people think they deserved to be named and shamed.
In a recent Reddit thread, people are discussing these kinks by answering the question: “Which kink deserves to be shamed?”
Be warned, these responses are NSFW and you should probably avoid eating while reading these. Answers include kinks like being a bug chaser—someone who is HIV-negative but knowingly hooks up with HIV-positive partners in an attempt to get infected. There are also kinks that involve screwdrivers, a lot of cold water, bugs, and a Nazi fetish.
Here are 20 kinks that deserve to be shamed, according to Redditors.
1. Bug chasers
People who seek to get infected with [HIV].
2. Necrophilia
Btw, there are prostitutes, especially for necrophiles. They cool their body down with water and stuff and just lie there like they’re dead. Weird, but better than with an actual dead body.
3. Stalking
Stalking and peeping toms. Anything that hurts people against their consent or involves underage people.
4. Genitalia insects
People who inject insects in their genitalia. I didn’t know this was a thing until my ex-friend a year ago sent a link to a f–ked up video of an Asian woman using a speculum to insert maggots and roach in her which ended up dying after a minute because I’m assuming her vaginal acidity. That was ducking disgusting I remember thinking first why would you send me this it’s 10 pm and two that’s enough phone for today after a minute of watching that.
5. Screwdrivers
I once came across this sub where women have huge screwdrivers drilled into their breasts. apparently, “it’s just a kink”. doesn’t sit right with me.
6. World War II fetish
My ex had like a ww2/Nazi fetish unbeknownst to me and only to find out where I went to his house to do the deed and the guy had guns and newspaper clippings everywhere. I was like okay he likes history it’s a bit weird but he’s sweet blah blah blah. Long story short I’m Jewish and he called me the Big K during and it was over very shortly after.
7. Holocaust role play
A guy I was friends with in high school is apparently into Holocaust role play
Edit: In high school, he met his dad for the first time and his dad told him that his great-grandfather had been in the SS. At the time, he was like, “Wow, that’s f–ked up.” But I guess it awoke something within him because years later another friend came across a bunch of Nazi shit on his Grindr profile and asked him about it…
8. Bug and animal crushing
Had a couple of female friends who crushed crickets and cockroaches for money. They had to wear heels and do sex sounds while crushing the insects. The guy who filmed them sold the videos and the men would send him heels for the girls to wear. It is very odd and they do bigger animals too. Definitely should be shamed in my book.
9. Wife chasing
On an emotional side, I have met a man before through work whose whole kink was wife chasing. He would try to f–k someone’s wife, then not wash himself, seek out the husband at their job, and try and strike up a conversation and try and shake hands with them with his hand that had been unwashed and still had their wife’s dried “juices” on them. He brought this up to me and a couple of other guys in a restaurant like it was normal bar conversation. No one knew what to say. Surprised he’s not murdered.
10. Upskirt filming
My wife and I did some swinging in the past. We spent a bunch of time with a couple we really hit it off with and had a great time. One day, we are all out to dinner. He brings up that his biggest kink is filming upskirt, secretly, with women he takes on dates. It was silent because my wife wasn’t sure how I felt about it. I asked him to explain how this was not a sex crime and why I shouldn’t report him as a sex offender. He threatened to out us as swingers on social media. I told him to go ahead and do it because I don’t give a f–k.
11. That’s interesting…
Dad had a buddy at work who got divorced from his wife after he found out that he had been literally eating another man’s cum from his wife’s p-ssy after she had got f–ked that day by the guy she was cheating on him with. He’d said he wondered why she was sometimes so creamy when he’d f–k her after work, and his wife always requested that he eat her out. Then he found the texts…which she was bragging about having him eat her out after getting nutted in by said boy toy. Idk how he didn’t go into a rage and murder her or the guy after.
12. Stealthing
Removing your condom without the girl knowing.
13. Bestiality
Leave those pets alone…for God’s sake.
14. Overstepping
I live in a city that has a prominent Polyamory community, especially in geeky spaces. My experience of those folks is overwhelmingly that they aggressively put pressure on my girlfriend to join in despite knowing about her monogamous relationship with me. I can’t speak for my girlfriend but it makes me enormously uncomfortable. I’m sure most poly folks are lovely but whatever this kink is: trying to undermine someone’s existing relationship couched in the language of consent and acceptance, I would see that shamed into the ground.
15. Anorexia fetish
I’ve never scrolled this far yet without finding someone with my answer and I can’t believe this hasn’t been mentioned:
Pro-Ana/anorexia fetish
Just… shudders.
16. Financial domination
Anyone who brings himself into financial jeopardy just to satisfy his weird masochistic kink definitely deserves to be shamed out of doing it.
17. Cuckold
I’ve been involved in the cuckold/hotwife community, and you’re definitely not wrong at all. I have seen both the male partner and the female partner very obviously just going along with it because the other one wanted to do it. Left more than once due to seeing this be the case. It’s really sad to see.
18. Keep it inside
Any kink taken outside the house. No one wants to see you dog-collaring another person in public, nor do they want their kids to see it.
19. Race kinks
A kink that comes from a sexualization of a specific race! Instant red flag:/
20. Bodily fluids
Anything that involved bodily fluids and doing it in public. I LOVE me some women peeing in their pants, but DO NOT do that in public as most people do not want to deal with your pee.
