Everyone finds different things sexy; it’s a completely subjective experience. But society has done a bang-up job convincing us otherwise, selling or passing off very specific things as alluring through movies, advertising, and whatever else snags our attention.
And reality often doesn’t live up to expectations, as we often find out eventually.
Redditors are pooling their lived experiences to talk about what things are generally perceived as “sexy” and just end up being as far from it as they could imagine.
Here are some of the most popular responses:
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Being mysterious. I’m not trying to solve a cold case file.
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Edible underwear. Just no.
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Exaggerated porn star noises. Most women don’t sound like that.
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Baby talking.
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Sex on the Beach…. Sucks! FYI – Sand does not work well for lubrication.
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Playing hard to get. I will give up.
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Food play. That chocolate sauce may seem like a good idea but really it’s just messy.
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Super long fingernails. They just don’t sit right with me.
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Inflated butts. They just look swollen.
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The pictures of their junk some guys send to women.
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Stripping. Used to be a stripper and if anyone knew even a fraction of what went into it then no one would go to a club ever again.
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Taking off glasses. Glasses are cute but also sight is fairly cute.
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Dirty talk is SUPER cringe to me if done in the wrong way. It’s very easy to try too hard and make it awkward.
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Stalking. and when i say this, i mean how in movies the love interest of a main character kind of pursues them in a really weird way but it’s portrayed as “so sweet!”
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I’ve scrolled a lot but still haven’t seen anyone mention loud trucks. The guys with loud trucks sure think it’s sexy. I’ve not met a woman that actually finds a truck’s loud exhaust sexy though.
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Guys bragging/talking about what they’re going to do to you & how it’ll make you feel. With guys like that 9/10 the sex is trash. It’s actually the quiet ones that will surprise you the most.
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Stupidity of any sort isn’t sexy. I know that probably seems obvious when it’s written out, but there are so, so many people who seem to think that acting like an idiot is the surest-fire way of attracting positive attention.
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According to my ex, reverse cowgirl. We did it one time. She just complained that my legs and feet were hairier than she’d ever noticed and couldn’t see my face. Definitely a position for the guy’s benefit.
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Licking your lips constantly the way some rappers like to do in videos or when giving interviews. To me it’s a turn off – like you have a dry lip problem, or even worse, you’re consciously drawing attention to your lips as if to say “look at how sexy they are.” It’s the male version of the trout pout and gets a no from me.