Kate Hackett
If you’re visiting this page, you’ve probably stopped and wondered if someone you know really is behaving that selfishly.
Well, friend, I’m here to point out some of the absolutely clear signs that you’re dealing with not just self-centered behavior, but someone who is just at their core a selfish person. u/Potatoe_stealer recently posted a Reddit thread asking for responses from the Reddit community regarding this very topic. We rounded up the best answers so you can worry no longer!
1. No remorse
They feel no remorse for how they’ve hurt others
2. It’s not that bad
When anything that happens to them is the worst thing in the world and whatever happens to you is not that bad and a waste of time talking about or dealing with.
“I know your mom died a month ago but my best friend of 3 years died too so I don’t see why you are so sad all of the time.”
I think narcissism and selfishness go hand-in-hand so there you go.
3. They do no wrong
Doesn’t think they’re wrong in the slightest bit. They can’t shoulder any bit of responsibility
4. At potlucks
They bring nothing to the potluck but are first in line.
5. They remember only their contributions
They don’t remember the times people helped them, but remember clearly all the times they have helped others.
6. One word
Littering
7. One ups
They respond with how worse their situation is when you’re sharing your problems with them. No try for help or listening, just trying to draw attention on their side
8. They get defensive
They gladly take any favours you do for them, but when asked if they could reciprocate once, they get defensive and or aggressive and act like you’re the selfish one for daring to expect something in return.
It doesn’t make you a bad person to expect reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic. Relationships are give and take and that makes them healthy. It’s not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness. If you’re the only one giving, you’re being taken advantage of.
9. Drama
Every bad thing you do to them is drama-worthy
10. The group
If you are in a group and there is one person that is constantly interrupting the middle of what you or anyone else is saying generally to brag about themselves with a ‘one-upper’ story, is generally a precursor to stop associating with them. I’ve met too many of them in my days and they are more often than not happy to throw you under the bus whenever the opportunity arises.
11. Responsibility
If they refuse to take responsibility for their actions
12. Everything is about THEM
They have that superpower to lead everything back to themselves. Even when you’re actually talking about your own life or a specific problem of yours, they somehow make it that you start talking about them instead without even changing the topic.
13. Not conversations
Conversations don’t feel like conversations.
They are one sided talks about what they want, their thoughts, their life, their priorities, etc.
14. You’re wrong
They never admit when they are wrong even if there is physical evidence!
15. Victim
When they always play the victim card. 99% of the time they only place themselves in the victim seat by ignoring all the effort or cost other people have to endure and only focus on what they go through them selves.
16. RETURN THE DAMN CARTS
Cliche answer but I have found the “return the shopping cart” test to be pretty accurate. It is such a small thing, but it does tell you if a person thinks small things like that matter.
17. Surprise!
They’re surprised and disgruntled when you accept what they’ve offered.
18. Rude
They’re rude to waitstaff or just staff and employees in general.
Or if they’re situational awareness is severely lacking and they don’t seem to have a problem with it.
19. Shut your damn phone up
For me it’s people who listen to loud tik tok in public. Especially in relatively silent places.
20. Kids
People who have kids on purpose, and then act like their kids owe them (well above and beyond basic kindness and human respect) for the rest of their lives.
