Hannah Riley
Being insecure sucks. Usually, you know you’re insecure and you just don’t know how to fix it. Looking at people who seem really comfortable in their own skin can just make things worse. How on Earth does that person just not care what other people think of them?
People on Reddit are sharing the biggest red flags that scream, “I’m very insecure.” Many people commented that they clicked on the post to learn what they were to make sure they don’t do them.
Guess what! That’s the secret! By choosing to not do these toxic behaviors, you can actually heal some of the insecurities.
1.
Bragging about things not even in your control, like your parents’ wealth.
– Hrekires
2.
Constantly wedging “humble bragging” into conversations.
3.
Automatically assuming negative intent.
eg:
Your friend didn’t pick your call?
“F*ck her, she’s trying to avoid me. I don’t care about her anyway.”
4.
I mostly see this at work.
– People who are in upper management and treat people like garbage just because they can.
– Treating new employees like garbage just because you’re threatened they might take your job someday.
5.
This is a self roast but I think I degrade myself just to hear others deny it, is that insecure?
6.
Constant fishing for compliments when around people (eg, “I’m so chunky” as a direct way to get someone to tell you that you look great).
– kukukele
I’ve always found the “you’re not fat!” thing to be weirdly insecure as well. I don’t understand how it’s considered “nice” to correct someone when talking about their own body if they’re talking about it openly (ex: “it was hard to find this in 2x!” Or “yeah, I struggle with that style because of my size” and then the other person insists you’re super small and not at all fat).
– thekandigirl12
7.
Trying to dominate conversations (not to be confused with just being a charismatic person).
8.
When people have and insist on constantly checking on their SO via some tracking app on their phone.
It’s one thing to have it and use it in case of emergency, but using it while out with your friends to make sure he’s actually at work is creepy and super insecure.
9.
I’ve found that a lot of people on Twitter that feel the need to post about how great of a person they are and they have nothing but good intentions are usually the most toxic people I’ve seen.
10.
I used to be very insecure so I’ll go from my own experience. Lying about something to seem cool. It’s very obviously a signal of insecurity because they don’t like who they are now.
– TruantJ
11.
When you question yourself “do they actually like me or are they pretending to?” or when you think you’re gonna bother other people if you talk to them.
– Degobbi
12.
Just not shutting up about yourself. Constantly lifting yourself up and comparing yourself to others, while pushing them down.
13.
People who always have to one-up you in everything if you tell a story they have a better one. If you buy something expensive they have to be something even more expensive. Some people’s whole life is trying to win some nonexistent competition
14.
All those people who post on Facebook those quotes that are like: ‘don’t worry about those who talk behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason.’
Or they tag themselves into any and EVERY place including the docs/hospital/somewhere personal. Then when someone asks if they’re ok they reply with: ‘don’t ask hun xoxox’
Urgh so basically. People who live their lives through very active social media’s I suppose I’m trying to say.
15.
Women who guard their men like a soldier. I was leaving an abusive relationship my friend offered me a place to stay. The hitch was if she wasn’t there and just her husband was I had to leave. I got a hotel room not dealing with that.
– truisluv
16.
Being unnecessarily mean-spirited to people. Had a guy threatening to kick the shit out of me if I told anyone he was dyslexic.
17.
People whose self-esteem is so low that they can’t stand the sight of people with high self-esteem, so they’ll try to break down anyone they perceive as more successful than them. When a group of this type of people comes together, a major crab bucket mentality arises and they will target people perceived as highly competent or successful for bullying, gossip, false rumors, and other things that should have been wiped out after elementary school.
18.
People who feel the need to judge everyone in a negative light and who only want to see the worst in others so they can feel better about themselves. It just shows how unhappy they truly are.
19.
Often people don’t know the difference between “telling it like it is” and just being flat-out mean. People who tell it like it only give their opinion when it is warranted because they would want someone to tell them the truth instead of dancing around it. However, some can cross this line and just be straight-up rude, while using this same reasoning. Those who “tell it like it is” are secure, those who are unnecessarily mean are insecure. Not exactly a direct answer to your question, but I’ve always thought this and wanted to share.
20.
Joint Facebook profiles.
21.
Worrying about every notification on their significant other’s phone. It usually leads to them going through everything.
– Kukri187
22.
Posting what you’re up to every day on Social Media.
23.
The more you talk about how good you are in bed and how many women you’ve fucked the less I believe you.
24.
Using your internal fear as a reason not to do something.
Hate your job? You don’t apply for any others because you’re scared of being rejected, or that you don’t deserve a better job.
In a terrible relationship? You stay because you’re scared of being alone.
That kind of insecurity is the worst because it affects nearly everyone.
25.
“I only get along with guys. Other girls hate me. 😂🤪”
26.
Insulting random people’s physical appearance.
27.
Immediately getting defensive whenever you try to help them.
– DRW0813
28.
Being overly nice and being a yes man to make other people happy. Also having no opinions.
29.
A huge lifted truck without any discernible work purpose being extremely aggressive in traffic.
30.
Clicking on this post, to see if any of the top comments are things you do.
