Kate Hackett
Insecurity is no joke and while everyone has certain trigger points, it’s important to recognize them and try not to make your insecurities someone else’s problem.
I’m not just talking about little things like telling quips to avoid a topic, but really important things that you SERIOUSLY should not do. So as you peruse this list curated from u/imma_lick_your_ass‘s question, “what screams insecurity but most people don’t realize?” take some notes!
1. Leadership
In terms of leadership, it’s when someone can’t (or won’t) take input from the rest of their team and tries to act like they have all the answers. I was this type of insecure leader once and I thought that if I used the idea of someone with less experience then everyone would think I was a weak leader. But after I was removed from that position I had to work for a lot of managers who did a lot of the same stupid shit that I was doing but magnified due to years of insecurity/habit/karma.
2. Comparisons
The incessant need to compare.
3. Never apologizing
Some people will twist the story, change the way it happened and retell it so convincingly that they’ll believe their own nonsense but will never apologize
4. Ridiculing
Ridiculing other people’s achievements.
5. Taking crap
when they can give you shit all day but can’t take it back whatsoever
6. Be happy
Always having something negative to say when something good happens to someone else. For example “oh you’re going to hate that new job” or “they should have done x instead”. Just be happy that someone else is happy!!
7. So mean
Putting other people down and bragging
8. LAUGH
When they can’t make fun of themselves
9. Be chill
Jealousy over little things
10. Just why?
Insulting your friend in front of others to be cool.
11. Not about you
Taking a situation that was never about you or had you involved in it and somehow making it all about yourself and playing victim(even tho you had meddle in it and make yourself the” victim “)
12. Smart people don’t do this
Explaining how smart you are.
13. Let it go
When they found a point that makes them look better than the other person and continue to overstay on that point.
14. Critique
When they can’t take constructive criticism.
15. Ow?
Those handshakes that are firm to the point you wonder if they’re actually trying to hurt you.
16. Shhh.
Being loud and domineering in every conversation.
17. Mistakes
Trying to justify every “mistake”, usually its minimal, but once you notice someone that does it, you just cant stop noticing it when they do it
18. This guy
“I’m an Alpha Male.”
19. Ahead or behind
Obsessing over hierarchies, or who is ‘ahead’ and who is ‘behind’ in life.
20. Perfection
Selling NFTs of yourself.
