Patricia Grisafi
Even if our wedding goes off without a hitch, there are still things that, upon looking back, we wish we had done differently.
Did Aunt Gladys and her family really need to be there? Why did we hire that particular band or DJ? Should I have sprung on the airbrushed makeup as the eyeliner runs down my face? Why on earth did we allow kids—or why on earth did we banish kids?
On Reddit, people are sharing the one thing they regret about their weddings.
As you might expect, a lot of these regrets have to do with crappy photographers, annoying family, and even stuffing the cake into their significant other’s face.
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“Not exactly a regret, but just a reminder to keep things in perspective. Looking at my grandmother’s wedding photos, she pointed out her bridesmaids wearing matching hats. She remembered these hats were important and there was some big to-do about them. For the life of her, she couldn’t remember what exactly and you certainly couldn’t tell from the pictures. Just remember that when you’re having heated debates over the ‘correct’ shade of blue for the napkins.” — xaanthar
2.
“Seems like most people’s regret can be drilled down into doing what their parents wanted them to do,” — chwbng
3.
“Getting a friend to video, it’s crap.” — zippe6
4.
“A reception line. I got talked into it, I didn’t want to do it but felt pressured. All I did for 3/4 of my reception was stand and say hello to people it was miserable and took a lot of the fun out of the day.” — emsquad
5.
“Well, we could have had the wedding in fall 2019, but my wife wanted more time to make sure everything was perfect, so we decided to have it in April 2020.” — ElToberino
6.
“Letting the photographer dictate where we should be for the entire night. Going back I would have told him do all the photo poses you want in the first hour then leave us alone. Also would have had someone walk around with us when we said hi to each table to help us get out of drawn out conversations to make it go faster.” — ocean5648
7.
“Wearing heels. Also letting my sister in law convince me to stay at her house the night before instead of a hotel. I slept on a tiny, uncomfortable futon with my giant future husband, and slept maybe an hour.” — LadyXaviaraH
8.
Letting my Ex-MIL dictate pretty much everything. It stopped being our wedding and became her wedding. And she is crazy. The whole wedding was no longer focused on my wife and I but my MiL handing my wife off to me. Which is really ironic because after that moment MiL became even more controlling. Some things she did….
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She had a mommy-daughter dance.
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Made a 30-minute long speech about raising my wife, including playing several inappropriate baby videos.
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Made a toast to herself
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Cut the cake with my wife
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Tossed the bouquet herself
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Tried to outcast my small family (party of 6) to the corner
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Departed the wedding in our limo with us
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This is the weirdest one. The bridal lingerie literally said ‘mommy’s girl.’
The wedding was ruined for me. The worst part? It set a precedent that my MiL can do whatever she wanted in our relationship and my wife would always choose her side. This eventually caused a split after MiL spanked the hell out of my daughter and my wife took her side.” — Sayyespleasedaddy
9.
“I regret not hiring a DJ. It’s not only music, they help with the flow of the wedding. Flower toss, first dance, money dance, whatever you want. We cut corners where we could and that was one I regret.” — WinterCarry
10.
“My husband and I went off alone to be married in the woods. No regrets on that, but I regret not going further off-trail for the actual vow exchange. A lady on horseback yelled at me that the “white thing on your head is scaring my horse.” — WithEyesWideOpen
