If you’ve never been to a wedding and wondered if the bride and groom were going to make it, you’re a better person than I am!
And possibly better than wedding industry workers, who constantly think about whether a couple will last. Recently, a Reddit user, u/Justhearmeoit, asked those industry workers to share red flags that they just know will send the relationship into the crapper.
1. They see someone else
“I photographed the groom and saw his eyes light up when a guest arrived. I looked over, and it was a cute woman in a short dress. He smiled, walked up to the woman, picked her up, and swung her in his arms. Best smile I captured of the groom all day. Marriage didn’t last six months from what I’ve heard.” —u/Twitfried
2. Rehired
“It was the third time the bride had hired me, and all the guys had been carbon copies.” —u/ChronosDustorm
3. Unfaithful
“On the night of the wedding, I brought the bottle of champagne up to the room along with some other things we did for a wedding night. I quickly open the door and walk straight in. The bride is bent over the chair with her wedding dress over her head and having sex with the best man.” —u/NotaBodder
4. Picking fights and being a jerk
“Used to serve at a lot of weddings. At one very expensive engagement party, the groom got drunk and tried to pick a fight with one of the servers. He then punched another guest and had to be walked out. Bride seemed upset but not shocked.” —u/true-romance
5. Fights about money
“When the bride and groom argued over why the groom’s mother shouldn’t get all the money given to them on their wedding day. Yeah, that was a red flag.” —u/JoeEIRE
6. It’s all about his mom
“The groom danced with his MOM more times than he did with the bride.” —u/pm_me_your_molars
7. Uhhh, probably not marry her
“I work in the industry, and I saw it before entering. Soon-to-be husband came up to me — a total stranger — and asked what I would do if I found my fiancé hooking up with her dance partner three weeks before the wedding.” —u/psnWaikato
8. They booked on a holiday
“I ran an upmarket hotel and restaurant that sometimes hosted weddings. Made a rookie error and booked a wedding for Christmas Eve. This should have been a warning sign, as it shows a pretty significant lack of consideration for friends and family, making them travel across the country on one of the most irritating days of the year, when we’d all rather be at home with family preparing for the next day.” —u/Joveticklemyballs
9. No speeches
“Wedding DJ here. I had a wedding a few years ago where the groom was a total dickhead. When it was his turn to make a speech, he refused to make one. When the bride’s sister begged him to please make a speech, or at least just tell the bride she looks beautiful, he got up, took the mic, mumbled to her that she looks beautiful, and sat back down.” —u/MrBashew
10. Ditching
“I worked a wedding where the bride and groom hardly talked the entire wedding. It was like they had nothing in common. And then later, the groom pretty much fucked off halfway through and went home because, and I quote, he was ‘tired.'”—u/Eggsegret
11. I guess.
“I was at a wedding, and when the ‘I do’ came, the groom said, ‘I guess.'” —u/MissCarolineC
12. Girl, no.
“When the bride ended the toast with ‘Well, as nice as you are, you’ll make a great first spouse.'”—u/Scoobymaybe
13. Ditching each other
“Planner here: So, I’m closing out a reception, but can’t find the groom for the farewell dance. Someone says, ‘Oh, he left with his friends to go to the club.’ Bride had no clue he had left! Huge red flag.” —aospecialevents
14. Not interested
“The groom and bride spent the entire celebration doing their own thing.” —ninabell1206
15. Body language
“I used to serve and bartend at weddings and I have a couple: The first wedding I can think of, the bride and groom didn’t even look at each other all night. Their body language might as well have said they hated each other.
The next wedding was a very sweet bride to a complete ass of a groom. He asked his guests not to tip any of us because he already did (gratuity is included in the price to rent the reception space, but that was to pay us. It was not actually a ‘tip’).” —hswart626