Lindsay
11. It’s nice to have a break
Whenever I visit family with children it’s fine for a few hours but then I’ve had enough of their energy and chaos, and I’m very glad to get home where it’s calm. There not being any real way to escape feels like a nightmare.
12. $$$ and ‘shhh’ make a great combo
I enjoy money and silence
13. A lot of very legitimate reasons
They’re expensive and I’m already in enough debt from college, they’re a big commitment and seeing how my siblings lives have changed with kids, I look at that and don’t want it, I like my freedom, I don’t handle crying well, especially from kids/babies, they’re rowdy, loud, messy and cause damage. If I could fast forward them to age 10, I’d be more open to it.
I’m 28 and considering a vasectomy. When I find the right woman, maybe I’ll change my mind, but I tend to look for women who don’t have kids and would rather not have them.
14. Their health would affect their child’s health
Too mentally ill from childhood trauma and have various auto immune diseases. Wouldn’t be fair to have a child when I’m not completely present for them. Love kids but not for me.
15. Parenthood just doesn’t fit for a lot of people
As the eldest sibling in my family, I’ve already lived out my maternal dreams.
Mental and chronic illness runs in my family and I can’t risk passing it along.
I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy.
It’s a lot of responsibility and I rather live for myself and all the other things I rather do in the world.
16. Been there, done that
A kid comes with a lot of attachments. I too am the eldest sibling, have a brother who is six years younger to me. I kind of became a mother unconsciously as soon as he entered the home from the hospital.
Now, I want to spend the rest of my life for myself, would love to explore the interesting things that this world has to offer. Raising a kid is not easy emotionally as well as financially.
17. Becoming a parent is a lifelong appointment
Once I’m a mom, I can never not be a mom. I like deciding what I can do whenever I want to without having to care for a child, I feel like a partner is already enough ‘compromise’ (for a lack of a better word) of free time. Have nothing against kids though! Just not for me 🙂
18. The responsibILITY and sacrifice are BIG
I understand the immense responsibility & sacrifice they are and choose instead to work on myself and continue to nurture my own experiences and growth through the one life I have.
19. There was never a desire
I was born this way. Have just never desired children. No particular reason.
20. My life is my own
Just never felt like I’d want to have kids when I was younger, and now (42, female) I wake up every single day with immense gratitude that I never had or never will have kids and it makes me so happy! My life is my own, I do what I want when I want, and it’s very fulfilling. I don’t have the delusion that having children would somehow guarantee love or that I won’t be alone on my deathbed. Lots of people are alone on their deathbed anyway (I work in end-of-life care). Also, given the state of the Earth with regards to climate change, I feel it’s kinda sh**ty to keep making more humans. We probably can’t turn this ship around.
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