There are very clear unspoken boundaries between mothers and daughters and dating pools. The most important is mom’s, don’t date a guy your daughter dated. Second, don’t date your daughters boyfriend’s dad. Not only is that setting y’all both up for some very awkward weddings, but maybe an upcoming incest lineage as well.
One reasonably upset Redditor (u/riassma) recently asked the “Am I The A-hole?” community if she was wrong for calling her mom out for her choices at a family dinner. Read her story below along with some of the top comments from the post!
Three weeks ago I got home and I saw my mom and his dad kissing.”
OP asked Reddit: “AITA for embarrassing my mom because she started dating my bf’s dad?”
She begins with some clarification regarding her writing (which is great for a second language by the way)!
Sorry if anything is confusing, English is not my first language, please correct if something is very wrong.
So me (f19) and my boyfriend (m20) have been dating for 4 years now, he was in 10th grade and I was in 9th when we got together. My parents and his always knew about our relationship. We actually lived near each other when we were younger and went to the same kindergarten.
Now, his father was a single father for a long time and my parents got divorced 3 years ago.
Three weeks ago i got home (since the university is in the same city i still live with her) and I saw my mom and his dad kissing. it’s an understatement that i was shocked. Like, wtf are you doing?
i immediately called my boyfriend and he came over. We got into this huge fight with them, they started talking about marriage….the same day i requested to get a room in a dorm. Since then I haven’t talked to her up until family dinner.
This is about the time stuff hit the fan.
While everyone was eating my aunt asked why my mom and I weren’t talking, So I told them everything: “Well maybe if she wasn’t fucking my boyfriends father, who is apparently going to be my brother’s father soon I would talk to her.” And maybe i was harsh on her but I was really hurt.
My mom got all red and embarrassed and started shouting about how our love is just young and why she should ruin her love life because we kids think it’s going to last…
i started crying shouting at my mom and left.
Most of the family was siding with OP’s mom.
My grandmother called saying how cruel i am. literally somehow everyone is siding with my mom except my cousin.
AITA? Was I too cruel?
Redditors agreed that there was something a little weird about OP’s family siding with her mom, and with the way her mom was handling the situation.
