There are some things you don’t do. Things like committing murder or sending your epileptic boyfriend flashing images are a few notable ones.
This anonymous Redditor consulted with the r/relationship_advice subreddit on something concerning his girlfriend does to him.
“I have had epilepsy for as long as I can remember,” he writes. “It was never an issue growing up, I was identified and diagnosed early and it never really bothered me. It just meant growing up, I had to turn on the “epilepsy friendly settings” on games and look away when a “flashing lights” warning came up on tele. Just a heads up, epilepsy is a condition in which the person can’t view flashy images/certain flashes or it results in a possible fit. This varies but that’s what happens to me anyway.”
Sounds serious, because it is serious.
He goes on to write they have been together nearly three years and describes her as “perfect.” She didn’t know about his epilepsy until a few months ago when she was trying to show him a video from a festival. Knowing it could trigger an epileptic seizure, he declined.
“She kept prompting me and I just explained how I have epilepsy and I don’t want to see it. This resulted in her not believing me initially. She just didn’t believe me no matter what I said, she kept persisting and telling me to look to prove it?????? Wtf? I’ve had a fit before and I can tell you, it felt like I was dying. I’m not trying to go through that again.”
Yeah, that’s a pretty good reason to avoid flashing lights and images.
“She sent me a meme video which I thought was pretty innocent until I opened it and found a disco of flashes going off. I dropped my phone and she found it hilarious, stating how she can’t believe I actually can’t look at flashes and that’s so childish. I’ve never felt so weak in my life. She’ll randomly send me flashes disguised as memes or videos and she finds it hilarious. Despite explaining the risks involved, she always laughs it off saying oh you’ll be fine stop it.”
YIKES.
I don’t open her messages anymore and she’s mad at me despite me explaining exactly why. She’s now angry that I never told her about my condition earlier? It’s not exactly something I’m proud about. She says how she has been planning for us to go to some music festival and that’s all ruined now because I can’t tolerate the lights. She told all her friends and they all say how that’s ‘so unreal’ and ‘no way, he must be lying’. I regret telling her now and I feel awful. I feel like there’s something wrong with me, it was never a problem before, it never even crossed my mind idk
This is abusive as hell and Reddit agrees, with hundreds of Redditors commenting on the post, telling him to break up with her.
Redditor Iaskriskyquestions put the scenario in perfect perspective:
“If you were allergic to peanuts, and she gave you a candy with peanuts in it while knowing it would hurt you, would you stay? If you can’t trust her enough to open ANY phone message then there’s no way you can trust her at all.”
You can read the entire post here.