Patricia Grisafi
What would you do if you found your significant other flirting with strangers on Instagram?
One Redditor doesn’t understand why her boyfriend goes through the app commenting on various models’ pages and saying things like he wants to marry them.
The OP doesn’t know what to do or if her boyfriend’s behavior will change…or lead to him physically cheating on her.
“My boyfriend were laying in bed when I heard his phone go off. He got a notification on his phone and it read ‘I got you tomorrow 😘..’ I asked him out about it and he flatly showed me the message. Prior to her message he had messaged this girl and asked her why she hasn’t posted her daily photo that day. However, when I checked her profile she had indeed posted just didn’t post her ‘daily’ selfie,” the OP writes.
“From what I could tell in her previous stories she loved a full body selfie. Another message was to a Instagram Model and he asked her to marry him. He had messaged and flirted with other girls through out our relationship. When I confronted him and asked him why he had to seek validation from others he said he didn’t know and it was just a simple comment. I communicated that I was upset with him and it was breach of trust and I don’t think he respected me if he sought out to flirt with other girls. To which he replies that he loved me. He said he didn’t think about it in my shoes, and that it was a bad habit of his that he wanted to get rid of.”
“I want to forgive him because I truly love him, but we’ve only together for a few months and I’m torn. Should I end it now and save myself misery and heartbreak in the long run or should I forgive him and wait for him to stop messaging other girls even though I’ll always be on my toes.”
Sounds like this guy isn’t ready to take the relationship seriously. What did Redditors think the OP should do?
“I was in a relationship with a guy for years and we even lived together and he would go on dating apps and message girls. It never stopped even after I confronted him about it. He is insecure about himself and needs this validation from other girls. He won’t change. Cut him loose,” advised Spare_Weather7036.
“I did this too, never messed around, but flirted. It was insecurity in the relationship that I was looking for external validation. I’ve been married for 22 years now, took a while for me to grow up, but it is possible. I think she should confront him , tell him to please stop and have her ask what is making him feel incomplete such that he needs that? Maybe he’ll have a reason, maybe he’s just a player. But communication is always good. I’m not endorsing however just saying it’s not terminal,” suggested Apatrickegan.
“Yes. RUN away now before you get too deep. I dated a guy similar to this. He was a sociopathic narcissistic asshole who ‘seeked validation’ from many other women. It wasn’t physical…until it actually was. Just leave now and save yourself the heartache and drama. You deserve better,” said vrlraa215.
“He has a habit…of flirting with other girls even though he reckons he loves you…. Hmm. Habits are formed when you do something sooo often it becomes almost like a reflex, you don’t even think about it any more you just do it. So he’s… just doing cheating on you, without even thinking about it or planning. He’s just blindly stumbling around throwing out flirty messages to every girl with a nice body on Insta. He cares so little about you, your feelings aren’t even a passing consideration of his. Yeah….nah. You can do better dude,” said nonsensicalnarrator.
“Simple solution. ‘My next boyfriend won’t do this.’ Either he quits or you move on. That is incredibly insensitive of him. Give him the warning above and move on guilt free. Maybe he’ll learn an actual life lesson? I’m a dude, btw,” said SpideyTingle.
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