Patricia Grisafi
When you’re getting into a relationship with someone, it can be hard to notice the red flags. Things are new and exciting, and it’s easy to wave things off.
But some characteristics can be worrisome and indicate that the person you’re getting involved with might be trouble.
On Reddit, women are pointing out red flags that men should watch out for when dating women — stuff like isolating you from friends and family, controlling your behavior, playing emotional games, and deflecting blame in every situation.
1. Never At Fault
“She’s always the victim in her stories, never the villain or the one who f*cked something up.”
2. Deflecting Blame
“Always deflecting the blame when you confront her about any sort of issue, no matter if directly caused by her or not.” — Jay4025
3. Isolation
“Slowly removing friends and family while making it seem as if it’s in your best interests. Also not wanting to admit faults or have excuses for their behaviors. Major red flag that you might be dealing with narcissism. Exaggerated self importance, excessive admiration for themselves, might seem like positive aspects to have, but are really major red flags. If it starts feeling like your relationship revolves around their happiness, RUN!” — ArtemisFoxx
4. Trying To Change You
“Trying to change you and mocking your hobbies/friends. Unless you have no personal hygiene and your friends are criminals they should be accepting of you, not who they want you to be.” —mycatiscalledFrodo
5. Put-Downs
“If she puts you down around others as a joke. Shows total disrespect and the need to ‘look good’ at the expense of hurting others.” — deltadeltadawn
6. “Psycho”
“Romanticizing being a ‘psycho’. It’s not cute, it’s a massive red flag.” — sannachan
7. Too Much Drama
“If she’s trying to stir up drama just so the relationship can be ‘fun.’ I saw this with a former friend. Spicing things up as a couple is all good. But if she’s stirring up the pot by letting other guys flirt with her just so you can play jealous boyfriend so you can ‘rescue her’ from a situation she started as if it’s some movie or something, STAY AWAY FROM HER.” — geligniteandlilies
8. Rules
“Women who follow ‘rules’ for dating. I have a friend who follows rules from Sex and the City. If she’s dating someone, they have to move in together at the 6 month mark, engaged at 1 year, etc. It always ends in disaster and she’s so focused on meeting those goals without paying attention to how her partner feels about any of it.” — fuxkyouforever
9. Control
“Making decisions on your behalf without asking – including what you will eat, wear or do.” — neuroticteletubby
10. Emotionally Exhausting
“If you walk away feeling depleted after spending time with her.” — LikeReallyLike
11. Trapping You
“When she constantly traps you in difficult situations, like asking if she or her friend are prettier, sh*t like that. Sometimes they’re just looking to stir sh*t and there’s no right answer. Just run man.” —sweetonionchild
12. Guilt Trip
“Laying on a guilt trip if you’re going out with your friends and she’s not invited. Everyone needs time apart to hang out with their people.” — scarletantonia27
13. Playing Games
“The ones that play games like: ‘I don’t want anything for Valentine’s day’ * Gets nothing on Valentine’s Day * ‘Ugh why didn’t my boyfriend buy something for me???’ And then get really angry. Be f*cking honest, don’t play games like a teen.” — EvilAlicia
14. Social Media Overkill
“The need to document EVERYTHING on social media.” — burritostrikesback
15. Jealousy
“If she gets jealous whenever she’s not the sole source of your joy/happiness.” — zoeelynn
16. Puts Down Other Women
“Women who put down other women, if she is always insulting/ being nasty about other women to you, thats a red flag. It shows a lack of self esteem and jealousy issues.” — raditional-Cat-1461
17. Flaking Out
“This is early into dating but if she makes excuses constantly that she’s busy or has to cancel last minute when making plans, but then will proceed to hit you up if she needs something. I understand being busy but goddamn some women don’t get that people lose interest fast when you keep doing this.” — ThatOneDudeWithAName
