Kate Hackett
Cheating absolutely and clearly is a line in the sand that is not acceptable to cross, but there are other behaviors in relationships that either toe that line VERY closely or just hop over it altogether. Mine is pretty obvious: physical assault. Let’s check out what Reddit thread in u/crolling123‘s viral thread asking, “What is not cheating but still a crossed boundary, to you?”
1. Work wife/husband
Not only it’s disrespectful af, it’s unprofessional and I wouldn’t like someone else to consider my partner theirs in any context.
2. Gossip
Sharing things told in confidence
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3. Saving pictures to jerk off
Saving pictures of people you have a crush on, also jerking off to them. It’s fucked up and creepy.
4. Feeding it
Having a crush on someone else and feeding the feelings by not making an effort to stop seeing or interacting with the person.
5. Who you’re with
Lying about who you were hanging out with.
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6. Lies in general
Any lies, even the little innocent ones – are a breach of trust and also a very strong sign for me that something is off in the relationship that they don’t feel like they’re safe to be honest and themselves.
7. Emotional availability
Engaging emotionally with another person while being emotionally unavailable for your partner. Just, nope.
8. Actual crimes 😉
Eating your favorite food without you.
9. The gray area
My boyfriend slept with someone in our dating fase. We weren’t together officially but we had talked about getting together numerous times. I forgave him but it did really hurt me because that whole time felt like a lie.
10. Letting it happen
Letting people you know are attracted to you emotionally invest and flirt with you while in a relationship.
11. Dancing
Intimate dancing like grinding and what not. Not like ballroom partner dancing but the type of dancing in a club or at a festival where people are typically looking to hook up
12. Yikes
When I was 18, I gave a guy I was dating at my job some birthday presents. One of the gifts was a plush puppy dog and he gave it to a girl to keep right in front of me like it was nothing.
13. Sexting
Sexual texting
14. Physical attention
Cuddling and hugging other woman ALL THE TIME
15. Offering rides
Offering extensive, expensive, time-consuming rides to a female co-worker without asking, telling, or consulting me.
16. Drugs
Lying about drug use.
17. Talking about us
Talking about our sex life with someone else. Fucking weird and gross.
18. Strip clubs
Going to a strip club, just because they “had” to go. “Needed the experience.” Like you should’ve done that when you were single! I know some women don’t care but seeing someone naked is intimate to me.
19. Big Lies
“Yeah, I liked that cauliflower chowder” is nothing to end a relationship over (but will subject you to more chowder). “Yes, I paid that” when I’m looking at a past due notice is a red flag. “I was at my parents’ house” when I’m looking at a casino hotel receipt is a huge problem.
20. Secret friendships
Having secret friendships and hiding conversations by deleting them or lying about hanging out with them. If there’s nothing behind it, why does it need to be hidden from your significant other?
