Woman Discovers Tinder Date’s “Dead” Wife Is Alive And Messages Her On Instagram

As people have been getting fully back into dating post-COVID, with it have come some pretty wild dating stories.

Sissy Hankshaw recently shared on TikTok how she matched on Tinder with a guy that didn’t initially bring up any red flags.


He’s an elementary school teacher with a son and is upfront with his matches about being a widower.

Hankshaw shared her first impressions of the man.

“I went on a Tinder date with this guy who was a teacher. He was 25, he taught school kids and I’m like, ‘Oh, that’s so sweet. He had a son – he said that his son’s mother had passed away tragically. She was dead, he was a single dad – how horrible.”

The date had an elaborate story planned, including anecdotes of how fellow teachers would watch his son while he went out with women. Cute, right?

Well, it’s all a lie.

Being a woman who knows how to call a man’s bluff, Hankshaw went straight to Instagram to try to learn more details about her date’s story. She ended up finding more than she had originally bargained for.

“I found her whole family and career history on the internet. Turns out she was not dead at all. She was very much alive, and they were very much together in a relationship. And he was so normal – he was the most normal person I’ve been on a date with in a long time.”

It’s always the ones that seem the most normal, isn’t it?

Hankshaw confronted her date, and…

“He told me that I was lying and that she was actually dead.”

And that’s what we call “gaslighting,” kids!

A lot of TikTok users connected his behavior with, well, some not-so-desirable people.

Apparently, men lying about their wives being dead is a common occurrence in dating.

Hankshaw even reached out to the — ALIVE — wife on Instagram to let her know what her husband was up to behind her back.

Unfortunately, it was very anticlimactic.


#stitch with @findingmrheight sorry Ashley your husband told tinder girls you were dead ;/

♬ original sound – Sissy Hankshaw