I’m going to blow your mind here because after reading the title, I bet you, I JUST BET YOU, you’re going to think that Reddit voted YES, you are the asshole, on u/DanWantsDeath‘s recent post to Reddit’s AITA sub.
They voted NOT the asshole… Let’s find out why.
OP explains that his friend recently got engaged and was hosting a costume party to celebrate.
So my friend 20f and I 19m have been friends for a few years and she recently got engaged.
A week ago I got a dm from her for a small costume party she was hosting as a celebration for her getting engaged. I asked if there was a theme and she said there wasn’t. I’m a cosplayer so I had a lot of choices.
OP thought it would be fun to go as the Corpse Bride and showed up as the Tim Burton character.
I didn’t want to rock up in an anime cosplay, so I thought it would be funny to go to an engagement party as the Corpse Bride. I arrived at her house yesterday and everything seemed normal. A few people complimented my costume and I was having a lot of fun.
…SURPRISE! It’s actually the friends’ wedding. Yikes.
After ten minutes my friend’s fiancé walked out in a black tuxedo and announced this was actually their wedding. Apparently my friend saw a video of someone doing this and wanted to do the same.
OP quickly wanted to know if he should change; the groom said not to worry about it, and everything seemed fine… until…
He asked us all to go to the back yard for the ceremony to begin. I went straight to him. I asked him if I should quickly go home and change my outfit and that I would get back before it started. He told me it was fine since I didn’t know this was the wedding.
I trusted him and followed everyone outside. They got married and everything seemed good. The reception was just in their house again so everyone just walked back inside and picked up where they left off. I tried talking to my friend and celebrating with her but she kept making excuses to not talk to me.
OP’s friend started avoiding him. He thought little of it until his phone started to blow up.
I assumed it was just because she was tried from the big day and wanted some alone time. I didn’t bother her after that and the party soon ended.
I got home and half an hour passed when my phone started getting notifications. I checked and it was my friend texting me. She was cussing me out and telling me how I ruined her wedding. I was really confused and asked what I did.
The friend was actually very upset that OP had worn a wedding dress to a wedding, but OP was like: dude, did not know this was a wedding.
That only made her more angry. She told me it was basic knowledge not to wear a wedding dress to a wedding. I reminded her I had no idea it was a wedding and that I asked her now husband if I should change and he said it was fine.
She didn’t respond, but I got a text from her husband. He asked why I would tell her he said it was fine. I told him he said it was fine. Then he said how I should have changed anyways and it’s my fault that the two are now fighting over this.
And now apparently the husband is mad at OP. What a ride.
I’ve tried texting her that I wad sorry and if I had known I wouldn’t have done it. I woke up today and saw her and her husband have blocked me on everything.
So… is he a jerk?
So, AITA for not changing out of the wedding dress when I found out it was actually a wedding?
Edit: I am a guy. I cosplayed the character Emily from The Corpse Bride and had blue paint all over. I’m also Australian and I’ve never heard a costume party meaning fancy. Everyone was dressed up in funny costumes