Kate Hackett
We have an incredibly wholesome thread from the AskMen subreddit to share with you today!
Redditor u/RoseGold_Babe recently wondered:
“What’s something you wish more boys or younger men were taught?”
And the men of Reddit responded with wonderful replies that made me really wish I had a son so I could help teach them some of these things!
1. Quiet matters
The empty can rattles the loudest. Ignore the showoffs and blowhards. They’re not impressive or important.
2. Walk
How to walk away from a fight.
3. A few things
How to recognise NPD and BPD, what a toxic relationship looks like, what healthy boundaries look like, and how to set and maintain them.
4. Abuse
Don’t accept abusive partners. If she starts being abusive walk away as soon as you can safely.
5. Dating
Just the fundamentals of dating. What exactly is meant by “confidence.” Why you should put effort into your appearance, and people aren’t automatically shallow for caring about it. How to accept rejection and take no for an answer. How to be a good listener. Why it’s bad to “play it cool” and then “confess your feelings” later.
6. Consent
How to recognize and handle women crossing their boundaries. The way consent is currently taught makes it seems like only boys need to gain consent from only girls about only sex, and that’s way too narrow minded. Consent is not gendered and not sex specific.
7. Sex ed lies
Was also taught in sex ed your both drunk the guys still committing rape because guys “can’t” get boners when too drunk. I’ve got them repeatedly with my partner when I’ve blacked out so I was taught lies in Sex ed.
8. Self-worth
That women don’t get to determine your self worth.
9. Therapy
Your problems can’t be your excuse for treating people poorly, it’s okay to ask for help, therapy doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
10. You are responsible
You’re an individual who is solely responsible for yourself
11. Alone
Being alone is ok and often times better than being with a woman.
12. Self-sacrifice
that being self-sacrificing because you think that is what is expected of men is not a virtue but a vice
13. Being masculine
it’s all about how you channel your masculinity. it is possible to be masculine and kind all at once.
14. Value
That your value as a person isn’t based on how much money you make or how many girls you can attract.
15. A bit of practical advice
Switching a tire…didn’t realize how many people don’t know how to do it
16. Invest
Invest, invest, invest. Quit wasting your money on BS.
17. Let it die
If a relationship ends once, let it end forever. If it didn’t work the first time, you can bet it wont work a second time. Don’t go back to something just bc its familiar
18. There’s a difference
The difference between being a strong man and being an asshole.
19. Walk away
It takes more balls to walk away and be the bigger person than it is to throw down
20. It’s okay
It’s okay if you’re insecure or not always sure about everything. You’re neither less of a man or human for feeling that way, and insecurities aren’t something that only specific sections of the population have a right to feel.
