Confessions

28 Men Admit The Ways In Which They Were Sucky Boyfriends, Now That They’ve Had Time To Reflect

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I was 17 and we had been dating for 3 years. She shared her dream of backpacking around America just feeling free. I felt threatened. We talked of getting married and I was working under the idea we’d be together forever. I crapped all over her for sharing that dream with me. We went to college together and she was clearly miserable with that life. I was happy though. We were right where I wanted to be. She called one morning to break it off and I fought it and even though she asked to be left alone I kept trying to talk it over. When she didn’t allow me back in I sent nasty message to her. I finally moved on and never heard from her again at college

Years later she sent me a text and asked how I was. I started right back where I’d left off. She told me she needed a friend and I told her she was in that place because she was selfish.

One day around 10 years after we broke up I out of no where had a memory of when we first got to know each other. I saw them that I’d always known she had a sense of wonder and adventure in her soul. She was strong and had so much courage. I could have helped her and encouraged her. I could have loved her for what she was and been ready to show her she was loved by not holding on. How lonely she must have felt and how sad it must have been for her to know I wouldn’t love her if she stayed true to herself.

I want to reach out to tell her I’m sorry but I know she is better off not having me looking for her. I know the only way to show her I’ve changed is to leave her alone. I hope she’s happy. —Gabudio

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I was a man-baby. Clinging on to my girlfriend for support, basically handing over to her all responsibility of dealing with my insecurities. Crying when sh*t hit the fan. Being extremely upset when she was obviously tired of it all, which she had every right to be. I was a b*tch.

Trying not to be like this anymore, working on myself so that I take responsibility for my problems. Haven’t tried dating again since the last few girls, but i think i’m at a place now where I could be a little more successful. Success requires failure. I just need to be independent. —HeWhoBreedPestilence

23.

Every relationship I ever had I was a narcissistic a**hole. Only cared about me and did messed up things all the time. It’s crazy how you can make yourself believe the other person is the one with problems when you can’t deal with your own. The best advice I would give my previous self would have been to stay sober. That really was the root of all my problems and one of the main reasons I was a sh*tty bf. I dated this extremely beautiful woman and would take her places and let other women flirt with me and get close to me. I never cheated but she would make a big deal out of me letting girls press up against me and when confronted I would tell her to not be so insecure. I have messed up a few peoples head in my day and I hope I’ve learned from it.

LET GO OF YOUR EGO. —abba-salamander

24.

I’ve just gone through a break up. Last monday my girlfriend came back from a work trip she has every year and told me we had to talk. She broke up with me after being together for 2 years and 9 months. She was my first real love.

She told me I was perfect and that she wouldn’t change anything about the relation. She just missed the spark or special feeling.

I still feel like I could have been more available. We’re both full time students so during the week I don’t really see her. I’m at University ever day from 9-17 and so was she. During the weekends I work from 6-13 so we could never wake up together. She asked me to work less or atleast have a morning off during the weekend, but I didn’t listen.

Right now that’s what I regret the most, not having a morning together to do activities such as have a walk. I should have listened to her only wish. This could have changed our relationship for the good.

I am still heart broken, because it was completely out of the blue. —FiReDuelluM

25.

Couldn’t bring myself to actually end the relationship and just sort of grenaded it from the inside. It’s my biggest regret, she was an amazing woman. —Syllabubspoons

26.

I cringe when I think about it. I’m in my early 30’s now, but My first love/ longer term relationship in HS (little over a year long) was with a really beautiful girl. Literally a 9.5/10 both looks and personality, which was a bit out of my league for sure.

I was controlling and acted like a jealous weirdo. If she wore something too skimpy I’d call her out on it and guilt trip her into changing. I always wanted to know where she was or what she was planning on doing, what friends she was with etc. would text her a bunch when she wasn’t with me. typical over the top manipulating jealous bf behavior. I’d worry so much that she’d find someone better than me or that she’d cheat on me.

After I lost her, I realized how sh*tty my behavior was and realized that it was due to my own insecurities. It’s not ok to do that to someone that you care about. I’ve never done that to another GF ever again and I seriously feel sickly embarrassed when I think back on it. If any younger guys read this, don’t make this mistake. It’s not worth spending any amount of energy worrying about things that are out of your control, or because of your own lack of trust/insecurities. You will lose her —UPCBRO1

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27.

This eats me up to this day. I dated a girl for five years from high school to college. I was not the best bf due to my lack of compassion, immaturity, and was more concerned with hanging out with my friends. All she wanted to do was hang out, be shown affection, go on dates and be a normal couple. All of which I made quite difficult by always making her second to my friends. She didn’t like to party, I loved to party. She didn’t like my friends, I begged her to come and hangout with my friends. She would ask me to hangout with her friends, I would show up for an hour and leave.

I was too immature to realize how amazing she is and I regret those five years a lot. I thought once we broke up our paths would cross again and they haven’t. She was there for my family and I when my dad passed away and was a huge help in helping me get over the loss. After the month we hung out again I was hoping things would self correct but it was never the case. Luckily she still lives in the area but has a long term boy friend who I am just waiting for them to get engaged and it is horrible to watch. She never deleted our photos from Instagram which makes me happy and sad at the same time knowing that the odds of that ever being reality again are slim to none. To be honest I am still in love with her and would love to see how it would work now but as long this guy treats her right and she’s happy I guess that is all that matters.

To the young guys out there be compassionate, listen to her, sacrifice some time with the boys to spend with her. Try and be mature in serious situations. —iknoweverything22

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I’ve done the: ignore for playing video games too.

But also not contributing to household chores unless asked. I didn’t get why it was a problem, “if you want me to take out the garbage it’s fine just say so.” But nobody wants to constantly have to nag you to do things. —MrFilthyNeckbeard

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