The subreddit r/AmItheA–hole has a lot of stories on it about people reckoning with their own level of culpability in a situation, and can make for a very interesting read. Every once in awhile, though, there’s a story that you just pray is a troll trying to get a rise out of the commenters, because if not, everyone involved in the story needs an intervention.
He says he’s a 50-year-old dad whose wife passed away ten years ago. He has two kids, a 17-year-old son called M, and a 15-year-old daughter he calls E. He says he recently was talking with some family members and it came out that E has to do chores around the house and his son does not:
I explained it’s because I have to spend extra on my daughter each month not only for her extra curriculars, but for her monthly supplies, so it‘s my way of having her pay me back. She cleans the shared living spaces and bathrooms in our apartment and cooks four meals a week. My brother said I spend twice as much on my sons extra curriculars and by my logic, he should have to do chores too. I explained he didn’t because I feel his could help him get into college but hers were just a hobby in my opinion.
Apparently, not only does this man have noxious opinions, he speaks them very loudly in a carrying voice. He says his daughter overheard and started refusing to do chores, because this incredibly sexist double standard isn’t fair. She’s right, but troll papa doesn’t agree:
I told her she’d still be doing her chores and life isn’t fair so stop being a brat, or I’d refuse to pay for her extra curricular stuff or pads. I wouldn’t actually do that, but I was mad when I said it. She packed a bag and took off. She’s been staying with my sister who called me an abusive asshole when I demanded she send E home. My brother and sister are coddling her and I’m furious.
The OP says that even his son is calling him an a-hole and he’s “completely fed up with the whole thing.” Then he asks if he’s in the wrong for “expecting her to do chores,” which seems like a very warped way to describe what actually happened.
Is this a real person, who has these real beliefs, and is really threatening to make his daughter free bleed all over the house if she doesn’t cook all his meals? How much exactly is he paying for pads or tampons? Because it has got to be less than a cleaning service and cook. Absolutely no one thought this guy was anything but an a-hole:
If this is just a troll, he is very committed to keeping the story going, because he edited to add this:
My son plays Football and Baseball while you daughter is in choir and a dance group, so yes I do think my son has a better chance at getting a scholarship. I’m not sexist and I don’t appreciate being called one, and for those of you messaging me saying you hope someone calls CPS on me, I’m not doing anything wrong so that’s just stupid.
Okay, he is truly delusional. There’s no way his son is getting a sports scholarship.
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