I think weddings make people remarkably terrible. They think the world owes them a living, they treat the people they love just awfully, and behave like absolute monsters. Not everyone! Of course, not everyone, but something about the wedding industry fosters a sense of entitlement that comes with the whole culture of “it’s MY day!”
Redditor u/TiredNeedleandThread shared a story on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le about just that: a friend asked if OP would mind making her a wedding dress. And things go awry when OP mentions the cost. I’ll let them tell it…
OP explains that having a degree in fashion makes some of her friends consider her a “personal seamstress”. Which is fine! But she doesn’t do it for free.
So I have a Degree in Fashion which some people think means I can be their personal seamstress, i’m used to this problem and I don’t mind helping people out but I never work for free.
And then OP tells us that a pregnant friend asked for a wedding dress. OP quoted the friend £600… and the friend was just shocked that OP wouldn’t tackle this HUGE project for free.
My pregnant friend recently reached out to me and asked me if I could make her, her wedding dress and sent me pictures of the idea she had in mind, it isn’t exactly a simple dress but also not the most complex i’ve ever done either, I told her I could for sure do that for her and it’d cost £600, she was shocked at this and told me she thought I’d do it for free and she’d just pay for materials, I pointed out how many hours this would take me to do and all the hand embroidery needed, then I explained I was doing this for a quarter of the price i’d charge other people because she’s my friend.
OP says that the price she gave her friend is a quarter the price for other people. And I gotta say: under $800 for a custom sewed wedding dress?!?! Jesus, sign me up.
But OP’s friend didn’t see it that way and started whining about how money is tight and she’s pregnant…
At this point she started to get very upset telling me I have no idea how much stress she’s under with the wedding and the fact she’s pregnant and how money is tight and how this should be my wedding gift to her and how great it’d look in my portfolio, I don’t think i’m being unreasonable to want somemoney for this…but other friends are telling me it’s horrible how i’m wanting to charge her for this and it’s not like i’m a high end bridal shop…am I being unreasonable?
Somehow OP has the worst friends on earth and they’re telling her SHE’S the jerk. She’s not. And Reddit agrees:
Stand your ground, OP!!!