Patricia Grisafi
It’s really nice to see a ton of people defend a breastfeeding mother who managed to get dressed, get a two-month-old baby dressed, and make it to a wedding. Because that is hard!
One Redditor got dragged after he criticized his sister for breastfeeding at his wedding, calling it “tacky.”
Folks hopped on the thread, telling this guy what a jerk he is for calling out his sister for the horrible sin of feeding her newborn in public.
“My (34m) sister gave birth 2 months ago. She brought the baby to mine and my wife’s (23f) wedding. She breastfeeds whenever she goes. We visit her house? She’ll breastfeed in front of us. Visiting our parents? She’ll breastfeed. Going out in a public setting? She’ll sit on a bench on the park and breastfeed. Go out to a restaurant? She breastfeeds. Every where. I’ve never spoken on it because I know she’ll get mad and offended but when she did that on my wedding I lost my cool,” the OP says.
“During the reception dinner she just did it again. I kindly approached her and asked her why she didn’t bring formula or at least pump milk out and put it in the bottle so she wouldn’t have to do all this at that moment. She said ‘because I don’t have to. I feel comfortable breastfeeding. Getting milk out on my own is more painful.’ I said she could just make this sacrifice and compromise for one day instead of doing this in front of 250 guests on my wedding. She then said she can’t do much about it now, because the baby has to have her milk. I told her she should be more thoughtful of that then instead of completely embarrassing herself and us by doing this.”
“I told my wife what the deal was and she said I’m an AH and should immediately apologize to my sister. My parents also sided with my sister and now pretty much everyone thinks I’m an AH since I’m the only person who had a problem with it. The only reason I decided to call her out is because I considered it a bad etiquette and tacky to do that at a formal event and that she could just find another solution for that night. AITA?”
Yes, yes you are sir. Let your sister’s baby eat wherever the baby needs to eat. Let your sister be comfortable. Get over your weird hang-up.
“YTA. Your sister deserves a hug and a thank you for making the effort to attend a wedding with a 2-month old,” said
“YTA. I’m assuming you fed your guests? That includes your nephew,” pointed out
“I can’t be the only one who is dying at his ‘But she breastfeeds everywhere and ALL THE TIME!!‘ comments. In other words, 34 year-old man exposes himself as not only ignorant of how breastfeeding and breast milk supply work, but also unaware that newborns do indeed require regular feeding,” said
“He’s lucky they all showed up dressed and stayed for the reception. I think it was 4m before my anxiety was settled enough to all go out for longer than an hour or 2. His poor sister is showing up with a newborn who is probably still waking every few hours only to be ‘called out’ for doing her best,” said
“Yes – and a PSA to OP and anyone else who may not realize: Not everybody can just spontaneously pump milk. It’s not necessarily easy to spontaneously change to formula and it might give baby an upset stomach. Not all breastfed babies will actually take a bottle. If you don’t want a screaming baby, you let a breastfed baby breastfeed,” informed
“YTA. God, what is it with all the guys who marry women much younger than them? They all seem to be immature and controlling in the same way! ‘Everyone thinks you’re the AH because you’re the only person who had a problem with it.’ — and they’re right,” said
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