Patricia Grisafi
We all know the time after a baby is born is beautiful but also rough. No one is sleeping, everything is weird and different, and mom’s hormones are all over the place. Dad should be pitching in to make mom and baby happy and comfortable (correction: Dad NEEDS TO pitch in A LOT).
And because, at least in America, people often have to get right back to work because capitalism doesn’t care that you’re bleeding and crying and exhausted — there’s stress. So parents need to work together to support each other. One Redditor unfortunately has a husband who is pretty much not interested in that.
“My f26 husband m31 woke up ‘not in the mood’ this morning and told me to make him a cup of coffee before he went to work. I went and made it with extra sugar just like how he always likes it but when I handed it to him and he tasted it, he made a face and said it was too sweet. I told him this is how he usually has it, but he said he wasn’t in a good mood today and told me to make another one,” the OP said.
“Mind you I was already 20mins late for work, I told him no and he already had one and should just drink it. next thing I knew he dropped the cup on the floor ‘purposely’ and said that ‘he no longer has it’ and I should go ahead and make another one. I refused and then we had an argument and I just walked out.”
“He texted me a bunch later saying I disrespected him and forced him to not have his daily coffee by acting stubborn and having an attitude. Then reminded me of how much work he’s picked and how much time and rest he’d sacrificed in order to help me while I was recovering from the birth of our son and that was just the first week then I had to get up. He said I owe him, and that I should’ve returned at least one of his many favors instead of deciding to ruin his day. I came home and he’s here refusing to even look at me. AITA? should I have just taken 5 minutes to make him another one?”
Even if this woman was not recovering from birth, it’s time for her partner stop acting like an infant. We all have bad days, but there’s no reason to be cruel.
“He considers the sleep and rest he lost taking care of his own child a ‘sacrifice’ that he made for her rather than part of being a parent. That tells me all I need to know about what kind of man he is. The fact that he also thinks she’s indebted to him and is still holding it over her head a year later is just icing on the divorce cake imo,” observed
“OPs blaming this on a bad day. Adults shouldn’t take out their frustration on their partners no matter what their mood is,” said
“I’m sorry, WHAT? Please tell me you did not clean that coffee up that he dropped,” said
“NTA- Sister, you need to seriously look at your relationship. What he is doing is not ok. Does he act like you owe him in other area’s of your relationship? Does he expect you to always bow to his wishes? You might want to consider therapy either for yourself or together, because what he’s doing is not OK,” suggested
“NTA – it worries me that you even had to ask if you’re TA. He’s obviously manipulated you so much to make you think that this could any way be your fault. Lots of people on here jump very quickly to say divorce but in this case, I’d say absolutely think long and hard about whether you want to live your life with a ‘man’ who clearly thinks you are a lesser being and is there to serve him. Get a divorce, seriously.”
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