Patricia Grisafi
Have we all decided that gender reveal parties are more trouble than they’re worth? Either someone is maimed or throws a wild fit because they are unhappy with the reveal.
One Redditor who attended their sister’s gender reveal party found out the hard way that their sister’s boyfriend was not just mildly disappointed to be having a girl but actually enraged.
It seems like there might be a real problem in that relationship, but now the sister has shut out their sibling.
OP begins:
“Last week my sister was having a gender reveal party. When the sex was revealed to be female, her husband got all disappointed and basically sat in the corner angrily mumbling to himself. Obviously this made everyone really uncomfortable, and my sister really distraught. I decided to talk to him, because frankly he was acting ridiculous and i thought i could make him see that so he could just move past it,” the OP said.
OP continues:
“I asked him why he was so upset, and he was like ‘really? obviously I don’t want a daughter, I wanted a son.’ I asked, why the genitals matter so much (which that is literally how the see the sex of a fetus), he called me a creep. I responded with ‘come on man, are you really gonna just throw a tantrum? Do you even care how your wife feels about this.’ He yelled ‘how dare you try and tell me what to do in my own home, you stupid bitch.’ At this point I lost my temper a little, and I said ‘if you plan on raising a child in a few months you better stop acting like one yourself. Just do everyone a favor and grow tf up.'”
“He started getting increasingly hostile and I realized I was not accomplishing my goal so I removed myself from the situation. Later my sister got mad AT ME, and said I should have just left him be, and now it’s my fault that he is ‘refusing to raise a girl.’ AITA?”
I mean, it sounds like this man should not be raising any gender of the child?
“NTA it’s his sperm that decided to make a girl! Make sure your sister knows you’re there for her if she ever gets rid of this brat,” said
“NTA BIL and sister both need to sit down together and talk it out because BIL reaction is very uncalled for. This is why I hate gender reveals, disgusting behavior like that usually gets exposed. I hope that child is loved by both when it’s born,” said
“Info: Is your sister in an abusive relationship? This doesn’t sound like a once-off behaviour. If she is, you’d better get some professional advice on how best to support her because I can’t see a scenario where this guy would be a good dad… If she is, her ‘blaming’ you for his behaviour is not completely unexpected (although it is insulting to you), since this is one of the ways victims of abuse placate their abusers. Please do all you can to help and support her, OP. She might not even be ready to hear this just yet, but when the baby comes, sh*t is going to get real,” advised
“NTA. Gender disappointment is real and if anyone is that invested in having a child of specific gender then finding out publicly isn’t a good idea.”
“NTA- but this raises some serious concerns. It sounds like your sister might potentially be in an abusive situation. His making a scene and being angry about the baby being a girl is a HUGE red flag. He should be happy about having a baby period… many people are not so fortunate. And his response to you is just as concerning. You sister really needs to think about whether or not she wants to raise a child in that already super tense household. If not, she needs to get out now before the kid is born,” noted
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