Groom Kicks Mother Out Of Second Wedding Because She Showed Up His Late Wife’s Parents

“Til death do s part” is what couples say in their vows, but unfortunately sometimes it happens much sooner than expected. Not only does someone lose their spouse, but both families have also lost a family member.

As time goes on, it’s common to meet someone new, but just because you’re ready doesn’t mean your family is.

Take this story shared in Reddit’s popular AITA community. 

The man is about to marry for a second time after his first wife passed away 6 years ago

Now the man wants to know if he’s wrong for kicking his mother out of his wedding. So he’s asked the internet in this Reddit post if he’s wrong.

Here’s What He Said:

AITA for kicking my mother out of my wedding?

OP Explains:

My late wife passed away 6 years ago, we dated for 4 years and were married for 1 before her passing. My mom loved her as a daughter since I’m her only child and I guess she never truly recovered, I loved my late wife too, but after meeting and spending time with my current wife, I’m sure she was not the love of my life.

My mom has never liked my relationship with my wife (Helena), she thinks I moved on ”too fast” and refuses to believe/admit that my love for Helena is bigger and truer that the one I had for my late wife. There were a few instances before the actual wedding when I thought my mom crossed the invisible line, but my wife, wanting to be accepted, let it pass and asked me to no do anything.

My mom was constantly talking and comparing the wedding with my first one (We married young and I couldn’t afford lots of big things, with Helena, I’m financially stable and I was capable of having a big, beautiful wedding). She asked, several times if I could invite my late wife’s parents to my wedding as an act of love and to tell them I was still there for them, but I refused. I haven’t talked to them in years and I have no reason for keeping them in my life.

She was very adamant and even Helena said that if I wanted to have them there, then it was okay, but I didn’t want to. I felt like my mom had held onto my previous marriage too hard, refusing to let go and inviting me to do the same. As bad as it sounds, I was done, I want to be with Helena without the burden of always having my ex-in-laws there, watching the life her daughter and I did not have.

On the wedding day, my mom actually showed up with them, I asked what they were doing there and they, very ashamed, said that my mother had invited them and they thought it was okay. My mom said they were “my family” and I had a duty toward them, I said they could stay for the reception to avoid comments, but that I hadn’t invited them and that I was sorry.

I looked at my mom and said, “You’re not allowed to stay to anything. Leave, we will talk later.” She cried and begged, but I asked her again to leave, in the end, the three of them left together and my dad (who has been divorced from her for almost 15 years) called me an AH.

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